Surely it's not just my partner that does this

[User7477]

Do you ever ask your partner to do something and you know they hear you but they just don't do it? For example...
I'm with my 1 year old all day do everything through out the day so tonight I was just sorting out some washing in the bedroom and I've said to my partner can you just change the baby and give her some medicine please.. and I know he heard me but did not move just sat there watching YouTube on his phone so I ended up doing it anyway but it's so annoying like I know he 100% heard me 🤦🏻‍♀️🤦🏻‍♀️

I feel bad as he is at work all day 8-5 but do you know a little bit of help of an evening would be great!

Then I've asked my 12 year old son to do 1 job for me (he doesn't do many chores) I said can you just hang the washing onto the airer please and put the bigger stuff on the radiators.. okay the airer he did quite well but ask for the bigger things he just pilled them onto the radiator and the floor next to the radiator and went back to his room! 🤦🏻‍♀️

Just needed a rant!

2 separate issues as a 12 yr old sibling and your dc's other parent are very different things.

Being in hearing range, and 'processing' are very different things. Sometimes people walk in on me and start talking, when I am concentrating on something else, start talking, and I won't 'hear' what they say, as my mind is switched in to what I am doing.

However why did you do it yourself ?
Why not put the baby into his arms / on his lap ?
Why are you "asking for help" as if everything is your job and he is doing you a favour ? Is he not the baby's parent too ?

Your partner has selective hearing. Hears what you say, doesn't process it. I'm sure he would of selectively heard you say 'would you like a beer' though.

Your son is just 12, cutting corners and hates housework.
Eugh frustrating, but life goes on

I'm not making excuses for them, but genuinely, phones and tech are SO absorbing.

My DP just doesn't recognise I'm in the room if he's watching YouTube on his phone, it's absolutely bizarre.

Have you tried handing him the baby when you say it so he can’t look at his phone when your talking.

12 year olds usually hate chores but will eventually get the hang of it.

Oh is he at work all day? What a big impressive man! No wonder he can't help!

Don't fall into that trap. He's a lazy git. Put the baby on him, tell him to sort her out.

As for your 12yo, part typical teen/pre-teen, part learned behavior from the lazy man in the house.