Hi, I really need some help and was wondering if someone in a similar situation could advise me?
I want to end the relationship with my partner and father of our twins. We are unmarried and live in a house which neither of us own. Twins are in a local nursery. I am currently looking for work after a few years off as a sahm. Partner works and we also bring in some money from benefits. I am in the process of getting myself in order - financially independent etc so I can leave. Partner is not abusive but situation is untenable and is bad for both of our mental health. I don’t love him anymore and don’t want to be with anyone else.
Partner can be quite difficult and will fight for us not to break-up. I have stayed for the kids for a few years now but I now think it’s in their best interests for us to be apart and coparent, but it’s been a really hard decision to make. I don’t want them to be affected by a broken home but I also can’t go on living like this; I don’t want them to see their parents so unhappy together.
Partner can be difficult when hurt and uncooperative. Has anyone had any success of making this work in the long run? How do you split time? As we are unmarried do either of us have any rights if the other wants to move location or do things without the other’s consent? I just want the time to be split fairly 50/50 and for us to work together and cooperate in the best interest of the kids. I know it’s best for them to spend time with us both equally. These fears have kept me in this relationship for far too long!
Sorry for errors in writing I accidentally posted too early.