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Sleep help, losing my mind

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Cheska34 · 29/08/2023 08:11

DD is 6 months old and EBF
She feeds to sleep and then will contact nap during the day or sometimes sleeps in the pram or car after some tears. At night I feed her in a rocking chair and she falls straight to sleep but as soon as I try to put her down in her cot her eyes spring open and she cries so I have to lift feed and rock her back to sleep she'll then wake again as soon as I put her in the cot, this cycle can go on for hours until she finally stays asleep. How do I get her to stay asleep in her cot sooner? I've tried getting her to nap in her cot but the same thing happens so I contact nap just so she gets some sleep

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wahmeh · 29/08/2023 10:19

oh this post took me right back to when my DD was that age. She hated going in the cot and either wanted to sleep on me or would want to go on our bed. I had this until she was about 9/10 months.
have you considered co sleeping? That helped sometimes when I was desperate for sleep.
when she got to 9 months I had to try sleep training in the end, as it got too much. It’s trial and error, now she sleeps in the cot! But she sometimes come in with us in the middle of the night.

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Cheska34 · 29/08/2023 11:41

wahmeh · 29/08/2023 10:19

oh this post took me right back to when my DD was that age. She hated going in the cot and either wanted to sleep on me or would want to go on our bed. I had this until she was about 9/10 months.
have you considered co sleeping? That helped sometimes when I was desperate for sleep.
when she got to 9 months I had to try sleep training in the end, as it got too much. It’s trial and error, now she sleeps in the cot! But she sometimes come in with us in the middle of the night.

I used to bring her into our bed some mornings for a feed and she'd sleep for a little bit but I could never go back to sleep as I'd worry about rolling on top of her and I don't want her to get used to it either! how did you sleep train? I'll find it hard but getting desperate!

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wahmeh · 29/08/2023 12:35

I tried various methods such as the Ferber method/pick up put down, but I found it just made her more hysterical as she wanted me to pick her up when I came back after two minutes etc. i realised that she just can’t see me otherwise she will get upset and want me to pick her up. when she got to 9/10 months I ended up putting her in the cot, say good night and walked out and just letting her cry after a friend recommended doing that and she was there for support. I would check in on her if she went past 10 minutes crying. She didn’t go past 9 and after a few nights it went to 5 mins, then 2, then she just went down in the cot. We’ve had in comparison minimal problems since.

it’s so hard and I did not want to do it, it’s not for everyone but it was the only thing that worked in the end. I was at my absolute wits end and exhausted because I was spending hours every night trying to get her to sleep. Now I have an evening again.

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Cheska34 · 29/08/2023 12:38

Thanks that gives me hope! I think a few nights crying is preferable than a stressed exhausted mum looking after her. I'll hold off training till she's a little older

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