How to be a girl mum

[Seasidemumtobe]

I'm currently 24 weeks pregnant with my 1st child who is a little girl.

So long story short my mum wasn't the greatest, she didn't really raise me I raised myself between time in foster care, my dad passed when I was young and I have no siblings, cousins etc. I grew up more of a tom boy and am still not really "girly" and am unsure of how to raise a little girl.

I know what my mum did wrong with me so I can kind of think of how not to do some things wrong but as in how to raise a baby girl what to do and not to do I don't really have many ideas.

Any tips, tricks or books or any sources or info would be great.

Thank you in advance 🙂

I think that if you love her, take good care of her and teach her what she needs in life like social norms, being a kind person but also keep boundaries and be able to say no, then you're winning.

You might want her to take some self defense classes when she is a young teen.

And congratulations!

No advice because I have a son,I had a traumatic childhood and what I find is you just learn to be a great parent and give your DC the childhood that I didn't have,you got this and you will absolutely smash it congratulations

The Book You Wish Your Parents Had Read by Philippa Perry.

I felt very much the way you describe and although I haven't always been a perfect parent I am trying my hardest and dc seems pretty happy.

No need to be 'girly'. She'll become her own woman, and she doesn't have to conform to any stereotypes if she doesn't want to. Modelling that you don't have to be girly if you don't want to would actually be good parenting.

You don't need to worry about raising a girl, just raise the child you actually have - respond to their needs, desires, interests etc as they arise and you'll do brilliantly xx

Congratulations!

I think it will depends on your baby girl's personality.

Mine loved playing with cars and wasn't interested in "girly" toys, like dolls.

She's 19 months now and turned into a diva. She loves creams -smelling them, putting them on herself-, playing with my makeup, wearing dresses or staring at herself in the mirror.
Not going to lie, she learned it from me! I put my makeup, parfumes on infront of her, and let her smell them, touch them, pretending she's putting them on etc.
When they little, they really don't need much: they just copy whatever you do. Even as simple as brushing hair- she might be interested or might not.

I have a daughter and have never considered how to raise her to be girly. Your daughter will like what she likes, mine is currently obsessed with giraffes and tractors 🤷‍♀️ just love her, love her and love her some more.

Forget the girly stuff, just teach her how to stand up for herself and be safe, and you're winning.

Agree with above, focus on the child, the love, the good principles.

There's a fb page. A mighty girl, shares lots of good books and resources.

My eldest is crazy for dinosaurs. Nothing else matches. But she stomps about in her dinosaur "boys" wellies wearing a tutu.

Teach kindness, respect and boundaries.

Congratulations

I grew up a tomboy too, still am really, I don’t wear makeup, I live in jeans and hoodies and my daughter is the girliest girl you’d ever meet.

I signed her up to football when she was 20 months old (I played as a kid), now she’s 3 and she told me she doesn’t like football as the football kit isn’t ‘pretty’!

She’ll have her own likes and dislikes no matter what input you have imo.

I never intended to have a girly daughter, I'm not very girly tbh. My 3yo dd loves unicorns, rainbows, dolls, babies, and pink. She also loves lego, dinosaurs and spiderman. She's very much her own person. A pp who said raise the child you have is right. Respond to her cues and her needs, and give her a tonne of love, and the rest will follow.

Not sex specific (I have one of each) but the books I've found helpful over the past 5yrs of parenting have been : Oh Crap, The No Cry Sleep Solution, My Child Won't Eat, Raising Your Spirited Child and How to Talk so Little Kids will Listen.

When they're little their sex doesn't really make any difference tbh. I don't feel I'm raising my 1yo son that much different to how I raised my now 5yo daughter.