At what age does this become inappropriate?

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I get very warm in the night/night sweats and I'm also prone to thrush, so I sleep naked and have done for years now.

Live alone with DS aged 4, who also likes to sleep with nothing on. He would never wear clothes if it was up to him (day and night, it's a battle).

He often comes into my bed in the night, sometimes to cuddle up and sometimes I don't even realise until the morning.

At what age does this come inappropriate? Im very conscious of this.

I think when it feels inappropriate or uncomfortable to either of you, you'll know.

My DS is 10 and I've recently been feeling uncomfortable being naked around him (after a shower, changing etc) so we give each other more privacy now. He doesn't seem bothered yet!

I'm in a similar boat. When DS (just turned 4) started being able to tell me what we did yesterday, I started sleeping in a T-shirt/knickers when we're cosleeping to make sure he doesn't turn up at nursery and say anything that can be misconstrued, but I am generally moving him into his own bed more these days. Sometimes if there's an emergency e.g. he had a night time asthma attack the other night, then I go into his room in the altogether. If I get hot I just take the covers off now. I have no issue with him sleeping in just a night nappy on hot nights.

I don't think sleeping naked with your child is clever, sorry if that's prudish, but imagine him innocently telling his friends about the sleeping arrangements when he starts school, you'll be on all sorts of watch lists. Get a light cotton or bamboo two piece shorts set.

Incentives to stay in his own bed? For ds many years ago it was a 20p under his pillow if he woke up still in his own bed!

Thank you!

My DS still sleeps in my bed at 5.5, he does wear PJs but I hate sleeping with anything on. I figure he will stop doing it or tell me if he starts feeling uncomfortable. I would love him to sleep in his own bed but he says he misses me and gets scared. I really wouldn’t stress about it, it won’t be forever.

I agree, my son is close in age and I think it just depends on how comfortable everyone is. Chances are he’ll decide when to become more private naturally and that’s when you stop

Just to be clear, I don't think there is a problem with letting your child jump into bed with you at any age. It's just the clothing thing I thought wasn't appropriate. If they want to feel safe and have a cuddle it's fine at any age. They'll stop on their own terms soon enough.

Maybe a try a 100% short silk slip? This is what I resort to in summer. Do not get synthetic satin whatever you do though. 100% silk is pricey, but worth it for feeling like you have no layers at all (if overheating is the issue). It also lasts a very long time before needing to be replaced.

100% silk. Not 100% short!

You’re asking them question.

You wouldn’t be asking the question if you didn't have doubts.

Wear a night dress with nothing under.

I must be an incredible prude. By 4 I would think that sleeping together nude would be inappropriate. If it has to be a choice of one or the other wearing clothing to bed, I would think the adult would make the sacrifice.

Crazy to think people think it is odd to sleep nude in bed with your pre school aged child. What a world.

I think it's totally fine until either feel uncomfortable. Sorry, I know that's not particularly helpful!

I suppose it's different when you aren't the same sex. DD and I walk around naked and she's nearly 12

I think its fine until its starts to feel uncomfortable x

Reminds me of a friend from decades back who mentioned that her family with nudists/naturists and how embarrassing it could be when friends showed up unexpectedly. To her family it was completely normal and there was nothing to be concerned about. Likewise when I've been in spas in Germany and Austria there are sometimes whole families completely nude and no one bats an eyelid. (well except the English!!)

Same boat and mine still bf obsessively 🙈

It feels perfectly natural but like you I don’t want it to be a thing.

I think in these cases you are usually fine to go with your gut feelings - as long as you are able to be aware of how your child feels about it. So take your cue from them.

Some parents will still be getting changed from swimming or bathing / showering together at that age, others won't.
We did a mix of sort of taking cues from the kids, but not making a massive deal about nudity. So they would start to take themselves off to a different room to get changed or try on a new piece of clothing for example. However when we stay in a premier inn all in the one bedroom together occasionally- they will get changed in the bathroom but I will just turn my back to them / sit down so the worst they would see is a flash of my bum cheek which I don't think is going to scar them for life given that they've seen me in a bikini 🤷🏻‍♀️

God that's long. Sorry!

Do whatever you think is best but maybe err on the side of caution.

I think from reading replies alone, that it proves that families have different rules and expectations when it comes to something like this. Some families are extremely relaxed and don’t think twice about it (I’d consider myself to be more on this side of the scale) and some will be extremely private and encourage privacy from the get-go. Both have their pros and cons. However, no matter what, if anyone is uncomfortable or simply wants their privacy then that should be respected without question. Chances are, DC naturally start to want privacy when they reach puberty. OP, if you’re questioning because you don’t feel comfortable, then stop and adapt. I’d recommend a night dress as someone else has recommended. Otherwise, don’t worry about it, Nudity isn’t sexual by nature.

I sleep in a mixture of just knickers up to full pj's. My kids are the same. I was in bed in just knickers the other day and when my 5 yr old ds came in I just chucked on a baggy tshirt. No idea why I think it's what a pp said... you just get an uncomfortable feeling and that's when you know. The fact you're asking probably says everything tbh.

Same boat, I started sleeping with knickers on, not bothered about boobs, they constantly barge into the bathroom and see me anyway!

Well they aren't allowed in female changing rooms from age 8, but I would go lower.
Definitely from when he can chat with family & friends, lest it be misconstrued.
I couldn't sleep a wink if I was even 80% naked - especially my feet and my DC were/are the same🥶 😂

It is, as someone already pointed out, very family based, very culture based. Having an Italian mum, and spending a lot of time in Italy, where everyone sleeps naked because of the heat, I have seen everyone, all ages, from the youngest to the oldest, in the nude. Whatever feels right for you and your son, is fine. Don't worry about other people, you do you.

Thank you for your responses.

I don't feel uncomfortable about it at all, neither does DS. It's just that he's about to start school and I wasn't sure if it was time to make some changes.

This makes me feel uncomfortable.. I think I covered up once I stopped breast feeding at 1.5 yrs. it was mean to flaunt it as it were when weaning and never felt appropriate to be in bed uncovered with my kids..