Fighting kids

[Brats4kid]

I have a 6 (ds) and 8 (dd) year old. They constantly fight and sometimes physically. They have no respect. Dd is on the spectrum, still under investigation. Is it just our kids or is it like this with children born so close together? I'm an only child, so I don't know!

Yes my kids fight all the time sometimes physical (I was told that’s extremely unusual when I posted on MN 🙄) they are 6 and 9. It’s relentless, it actually makes me laugh when people say I’m lucky as they can “play together” they fight way more than they play.

There is an 18 month gap between me and my older sister and when we were that age it was constant fighting. I thought all siblings were like that😆

I think squabbling and fighting between siblings is normal. Do your best to give them each time and space. Have clear house rules and consequences for breaking them.

What do you mean 'they have no respect'?

The best advice ever given to me was that "fighters like an audience ".

I don't know about autism as my kids were not, but they did fight at a particular age/stage. I used to very casually find a reason to leave the room, ignoring it. They soon stopped.

My brother and I were like this as children. He is 3 years older than me. Our parents decreed that we should have a ten minute pillow fight after tea each day when we could whack the other as hard as we liked, not all that easy with the heavy feather pillows we had then! The rest of the time we had to be civil with each other and it did work! Best of friends as adults

My kids physically fought but stopped around age 11 when the older one (boy) realised that fighting someone physically smaller and female looks bad on him. They squabbled though and ended up not talking to each other unless they had to

They ignore us half the time and it's only when we threaten to take something off them or stop them going somewhere that they listen. Ds especially, alot of his behaviour is learnt from Dd. Outside of the home, my ds is a model child. People stop me to say how polite he is and he holds doors open for people.

3 years between my brother and I, I’m older and yes we fought all the time. Unfortunately we didn’t grow out of it, we really can’t stand each other. The one or two times a year we are in the same room together we try to avoid and not speak to each other.

He is also perceived as the polite, charming, funny one by others.

3 year gap here and yes they fight all the time, it’s draining and I’m so over it!