Never ending sleep regression… losing my mind

[Lolarosemama]

Hi,

My dd sleep is killing me. At one point she was sleeping bedtime - 2am, waking for a feed, then sleeping again until the morning. Felt like we had some routine going.

I’m not stupid, I know sleep was set to get worse again, this is my second child, but it hasn’t stopped getting worse since the 4 month sleep regression.

She’s now 6 months, not napping properly in the day, feeding every two hours at night, and doing long stints awake at night time the second I put her back down (fast asleep!!!) too. I’m so sleep deprived, I just feel angry and alone.

Any suggestions anyone? I know everything is a phase blah blah blah, but this is a bloody long one and I’m exhausted.

Solitary. We’ve not hit it yet (also my second) but am already shattered and dreading it as I can barely cope as it is with the lack of sleep. Cosleeping was a blessing last time.

Thanks lovely, I hope you get a bit of support and rest this bank holiday 💕

Anyone else?

Sleep train. She will be as knackered as you, and you can’t parent effectively on no sleep!

DD is a terrible sleeper. She's just turned 7months and sleep is still hit and miss. Last week she was screaming every time she was put down..waking 10 times one night (?!) This week she's had 2 nights with only 2 wake ups. I've tried it all and tbh trying to change it was stressing me out more. Now I just let her essentially do what she wants re sleep (which is contact naps 3 times a day) but generally try not to let her sleep more than 4hrs total in the day.

I don't even bother with a bedtime routine because she doesn't like it and it doesn't help. I get her ready for bed and then she sleeps downstairs on me until I want to go to bed and then we co sleep (which I said I'd never do). Accepting its shit has helped lol. Lyndsey hookway on IG has saved my sanity many times.

I sleep trained my second after going through this, and after being staunchly anti sleep training with my first. My first didn’t sleep well until she was 3 so I knew in my bones that I could not survive it again. How do you feel about sleep training? I did gradual withdrawal so I stayed with her while she was distressed about us imposing this new change in how she slept. It wasn’t all easy but it was a way of doing it that was acceptable to me.

Once you have two it is more pressing that you need to be ok enough to cope. Also you are a bit more able to tolerate your children’s distress by then compared with your first. Well maybe this is just me but I’m saying that when you feel so destroyed like this, it’s a sign that change is needed. I didn’t do the sleep training til 8/9 months and co slept til then. In the interim, pull in every scrap of help you can get. I’m so sorry for you, I recall these feelings well.

She's 6 months- have you considered bed sharing? I was always "the most sleep for the most people" and that's what worked for me.