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Feeling like I don't know how to be a Mum

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Cheesywholemealbread · 24/08/2023 15:19

My LO (who will be 1 next week) was on 2 naps a day. He then started fighting his morning nap so I made the decision to drop to one nap which worked really well.
When he transitioned onto one nap a day, it lasted 2.5 weeks. During this period, he slept 2.5 hours (sometimes I had to wake him up). When I say 'lasted 2.5 weeks', the reason for this was because he got ill (Gastroenteritis, high temp, cough, cold and teething.. the whole package!) and was napping between 1 and 2 naps. He’s much better now but still getting over the cough and cold but he’s back on 2 naps again... the other day, he napped once so who knows anymore!

Could it be a regression? Could it be because he is still a little under the weather? I really don’t know but what I do know is that I feel like I’ve gone backwards with this and I just don’t know if or what I am doing is right or wrong.
We had a very good schedule since he was a newborn but it seems all of this is out of the window. Since being ill, he's been waking up at night multiple times (except on Sunday where he slept through until past 7am!)

He starts nursery next week and I just feel so unprepared and a bit of a failure.

What am I doing wrong?! Sad

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Hidingawaytoday · 24/08/2023 15:24

You're doing nothing wrong at all! Sleep isn't linear, and it will take a while for him to adjust to the new routine - especially as he's been ill. Some days, he'll be more tired than others, and that's ok. The night waking is probably because he's still getting over his cold and can't resettle himself as he's uncomfortable. It will all calm down eventually 😊

Bettyboop2530 · 24/08/2023 15:27

You are doing nothing wrong!! 🙂
My almost 2 year decided a few weeks ago he didn't want his 1 nap anymore so I went with it, lasted a few days and he was a wreck so back to mid morning nap now.
Just go with the flow for a few days and start your routine up again. He will also be exhausted from nursery so those days he might go to sleep earlier. Also they do say there is a 12 month sleep regression so hang in there x

Blessedbethefruitz · 24/08/2023 17:40

Children are irrational dictators until at least 4. Mine is 4.5 and can now occasionally be reasoned with.... alas his little sister is really starting to exert her will now too.

You're doing just fine :) Just love, don't doubt yourself.

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Danikm151 · 24/08/2023 17:41

None of us do!

You find your groove! Routines with little ones change so much especially with sleep!

Clefable · 24/08/2023 17:45

It's just a time of transition. DD2 is 14mo and sometimes she has two naps and sometimes she has one. Sometimes she is tired two hours after waking up, sometimes she's awake for four hours after. I just let her decide!

Dyra · 24/08/2023 21:12

Sounds exactly what happened with DC2. Dropped to one nap for a couple weeks. Fell horrendously ill. Reverted back to 2 naps for a few weeks, then returned to one nap again.

It's so hard when things have been going well and you've found your rhythm. You find yourself taken by surprise and completely unprepared for it. You wonder what on earth you've done wrong, and have no clue how to to get it back to normal. I assure you it's a blip, and he will go back to one nap eventually, and you'll return to your groove. Definitely not a bad mum. You're doing great.

Cheesywholemealbread · 25/08/2023 21:38

Thank you so much everyone for your reassuring replies - it's very helpful and good to know that I'm not doing anything wrong and it's all normal.

His cough is very phlegmy at the moment and last night, he decided to wake up very uncomfortable and hard to settle - I had a strange feeling something wasn't right... About an hour later, he was sick all over me. It's so, so difficult because I'm trying to get back into his normal routine but it seems that whatever I try to do, something happens and I'm back to square one. I'm exhausted but I'm also worried about him and I just don't know what to do. My anxiety is quite severe during the evenings Sad

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