Would this bother you or am I being overly sensitive

[Garden111]

So I have a 17 month old and where I live all the kids play out together a lot. I’m not friends with any of the parents but do talk to them if I see them.

A couple of the other children’s parents have made comments about my son that made me feel a bit uncomfortable. For example, the other day my son got upset because I held another 1 years old hand to help them down the step. I explained to my son that I was just helping him and that’s it’s nice to help and comforted him once the other baby was safely down. One parent then started saying how dramatic he was and called him a little ‘Drama King.’ This was after a long day at nursery where he didn’t nap well so not only was he tired but also from an emotional point of view I think he had been missing me.

Shortly after my son was playing with a toy and the other baby came over to try join in and my son pushed him away. I told my son ‘No, we don’t push,’ and that was the end of it. The other 1 year old didn’t seem bothered but then his mum said to my son, ‘Why don’t you like X?’ To which he ignored as he obviously doesn’t have the vocabulary to respond. Then she said it again, ‘Why don’t you like X?’ I then said he’s just tired and she left it.

I’m not sure if I’m just over thinking it or if those comments were a bit ignorant and annoying of the other parents. I would never personally call a child a ‘Drama King/Queen’ especially a 1 year old. & it is also pretty obvious to me that my son does not ‘dislike’ the other baby. I don’t have any friends with kids so don’t interact with adults and their kids too much so maybe this is just normal banter between parents?

I'd take those comments as a red flag personally and give those people a wide berth in future. Dont feel you need to respond to them or justify your dc, just ignore. Just because you live near them it doesn't mean you have to socialise with them. I often took my dc to play in neighboring areas as it was just nicer and the families were more pleasant.

@naefi Thanks for your comment, it’s reassuring that you feel they were a bit weird too.
I definitely felt an uncomfortable vibe from what they said and have done previously. It is hard to avoid them as it’s kind of like a communal garden iygm, but I will try avoid them in the future.

The other parent sounds a bit thick but I also think you are being oversensitive and need to stop taking the uttering of idiots to heart.

I think it's just the sort of crap that tired, distracted parents of little ones say to each other tbh. Wouldn't give it a second thought.

This is definitely weird, the fact you don’t know them and they’re making these comments. I don’t think it’s being sensitive I think it’s you being protective of your child. Someone your barely know calling your child a drama king, and what normal person would ask a one year old why they don’t like someone. I would maybe make this joke with my sisters about my nieces and have banter with them but definitely not with someone I’m not actually friends with. I agree with the comment further up to try avoid them where possible!

I don’t think you’re being sensitive, they sound a bit like the sort of people I wouldn’t want around my kids. Regardless of other peoples opinions though, if you aren’t comfortable around certain people and you can avoid them, then do!

I was at the park and heard people critiquing how vigilant I was being with my 2 yo. I asked my sister if she thought I was being a bit overprotective and she agreed that maybe I was.
I let my little girl do more of her own thing but regretted it almost instantly when she fell down off one of the rides. She wasn’t hurt but she could have been.
20 years later I still replay this incident in my mind. Fuck other people you do your baby your way.