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Should we put them into the same room?!

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happydayseh · 23/08/2023 21:35

Looking for some advice. I have 2 sons, DS1 is 2 (3 in November) DS2 is 1 in the next couple of weeks.
My eldest was a rubbish sleeper as a baby and was close to 14 months before he started sleeping a full night. Has had periods of wakening in the night since but nothing major, however he's always been an early bird with very early get ups (happy here if we get to 6am).
My youngest (touch wood) is proving to be a much better sleeper and is now sleeping through without waking for a bottle.
Ok so, we live in a three storey home, two bedrooms on each floor. We are on the top floor next to the nursery and DS1 is in a room downstairs and has been since before DS2 was born.
Over the last month, my eldest has been sleeping terribly waking multiple times, so we continue to simply put him back to bed repeatedly until he gives in but as this goes on he disturbs the baby.
Last night was a horrendous night, DH was on nights so I was alone and felt like I was being tag teamed as DS1 was creating such a fuss he woke up the baby and so on.

Ok so, I wonder is it a terrible idea to put DS1 up into the same room as DS2. My thinking is, he might be frightened being on the lower floor and that's what the fuss is about? (He just says he wants to go upstairs) or am I just bonkers with sleep deprivation and this is going to completely disturb the baby more.

ANY ADVICE / experience greatly appreciated on this long and rambly post 🤣 (Atleast tell me this too shall pass)

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Whatelsecouldibecalled · 23/08/2023 21:42

Put baby in lower floor and you and DS on same floor if baby is the better sleeper

Whatelsecouldibecalled · 23/08/2023 21:43

Also. Solidarity. I have a one year old and 3 year old and frequently do evening nights solo as husband works shifts. It's a shitter

happydayseh · 23/08/2023 21:53

@Whatelsecouldibecalled thanks this is also th other option which I think I know is the better one. Just being lazy wanting to avoid all the moving around 😅.

Sending good vibes to you on your next solo night Flowers

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Raggeo · 23/08/2023 22:19

Not the same situation but my 2 have a 22month age gap and they share a room. My 2nd child was a terrible sleeper. Then we moved house and thought it best for my 2 kids to share (just turned 1 and almost 3 at that stage). Genuinely the best decision we ever made. My eldest was already a good sleeper so he wasn't really disturbed but it made a huge difference to my 1yo.i think for her just to know there was someone in the room with her she was comforted and felt secure but because it wasn't me she wasn't crying to get lifted out or to get into my bed. From the first night they both have slept through, unless ill. My youngest is an early riser but as long as I bring her out of the room before she starts chatting/singing too noisily then my eldest will sleep a bit longer. They are nearly 2 and nearly 4 now and they crack me up chatting to each other in the mornings and at bedtime when they are in their beds. I love it.

happydayseh · 24/08/2023 06:29

@Raggeo thank you. That's positive. We have always wanted them to eventually share I think it'll be lovely and also hope the company might help DS to settle. Thank you for replying 😊

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ImGoingThroughChanges · 24/08/2023 06:31

Do what works best to give you all some sleep. Try them in the same room - it might help your d S1 to have his brother in with him.

MrsJamin · 24/08/2023 06:35

Ds1 and ds2 are just over two years apart, shared a room until they were 6 & 8. So much easier to do bedtime with them both. They did sleep well next to each other, just try it temporarily if you can?

happydayseh · 24/08/2023 07:03

Thanks guys I'm going to move DS1 bed up today to try tonight. DH is off now for a few days so atleast if it all goes t*ts up I have some help. Thanks all. Wish me luck!!

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MrsJamin · 24/08/2023 13:03

Good luck 🍀 you got this! 🙌

gogomoto · 24/08/2023 13:24

Mine shared until 6&8 out of necessity at first then out of choice. Dd2 was a rubbish sleeper, she was in with us a lot.

MrsJamin · 26/08/2023 07:36

How's it going @happydayseh?

happydayseh · 28/08/2023 07:30

@MrsJamin yep didn't go well at all 😅 we have a rough couple of nights, and i felt like we had made the problem so much worse. We moved the bath downstairs and kept DS1 up in the room next to us. I'm back to work from mat leave this week so I don't feel up to the challenge 😂 hoping this too shall pass! Xx

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Raggeo · 28/08/2023 13:35

Aw, sorry to hear that. At least you tried.

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