I'm a FTM and my DD is 4 and a half months. We don't put her down for bed at night until we go up between 10/11. Most of the time she falls asleep downstairs with us at around 8ish and she will sleep on one of us until we go to bed, however she has the odd night (like tonight) where she will fall asleep but then wake up around 30 mins later and we can't get her back off to sleep. We rarely struggle to put her down when we actually go to bed, we always give her a bottle in bed which usually sends her off and then she will sleep through until around 6:30.
We have tried to put her down in her nextome upstairs when she falls asleep in the evening but she always wakes up and the only time she stays asleep at this time is if she's on one of us.
I follow her lead when it comes to naps in the day, I'll keep her awake for around 1.5-2 hrs and then try to get her off for a nap. I will then leave her to sleep for as long as she wants (usually 2 naps of 30-45 mins in the morning and a longer nap in the afternoon around 1.5-2hrs). She doesn't have set nap times and if we are out for the day she tends to just fall asleep in the pushchair as and when she wants.
My questions is, is this normal or should we be trying to implement a stricter routine e.g set nap times through the day and an earlier bedtime at night?
I'm kind of stressing myself out thinking about trying to get her to sleep upstairs earlier in the evening before we go to bed, I know it's going to be hard to get her to stay down especially if she isn't ready to go to sleep as we have already tried and it will most likely take up most of our evening keep going upstairs to resettle her.