I'm having a bit of trouble trying to navigate this. DC3 is constantly complaining that I don't play enough with her. I try so hard to carve out time but the more I do the more she pines for it and it causes her to get more upset and it generally ends in tantrums. For instance I have her and DS1 one full day a week together (she goes to nursery 3 half days and DM takes her one day). Last week she was asking to go to the park all week so I let her choose the park, take her bike and after getting her and DS ready (I'm really tired this day) she just complains I don't play with her enough at the park. DS has just turned 1 year old and is unsteady on his feet when outside, I have to take the pram for him and I just can't clamber about and play with her, it's impossible! I try to explain grown ups can't play like friends and are not allowed to play on the slides, climbing frames etc. She just gets annoyed at me. This morning I get her and her brother up, feed them, dress them set up a game for them to play. I need to still get showered/dressed/eat/not even had a coffee so hand over the game to DH so I can get ready and he can start work. Everything is explained to DD. I leave the room and just hear her shouting and being horrible to DH, she comes upstairs and waits for me while I have a shower, complains while I get dressed/do my make up, won't to downstairs, won't give me any space. I try to talk to her and include her, let her look at my make up bag. She tries to get me to start playing a game, I say I can't because I need to get ready so her dad can start work (he works from home). She gets annoyed. She gets annoyed when I say I need to eat breakfast. I'm honestly at the end of my patience.
I understand she's been through a lot with a new sibling bit any time I try to spend one on one time with her she says she doesn't want to, she wants to spend time the four of us with DH and DS. I spent most of the day with her yesterday playing, took her to see DM etc. I am honestly so upset by this all. I feel I give so much and then she just gets annoyed at me. I am sooo tired all the time and it just makes it so much harder when she says I don't do enough. I just don't know how to handle this, I love her so much and love spending time with her but I feel smothered and have this morning guilt. What can I do?