Help!! I have a 16 year old son. He's done quite well in school, he's had a part time job and is now starting college. I have been giving him his freedom, as long as he is honest and open with me about where hes going and what he's doing, it's taken a while but we got there. However, since June, we have had his friend living with us due to his own personal family issues. Which is fine because he is a good person, he just lies... alot, about the smallest of things. We've been working on it though, I have many talks with him to help him feel more comfortable on being honest with me. Recently him and my son went out and their curfew is 10pm, now in the past they have asked to stay out later and I will say that's fine because they have asked and I know where they are. This time, my son made up the fact that they were watching a film at a friend's, so can they stay later. I said yes because that's fine ... I was suspicious though. When they can through the door at 11:30pm, I asked about they film and they both were juat making up stuff about it and something they said they didn't remember. I confronted my son and said I know this is a lie, he admitted it and said they just wanted to stay out longer. I'm so so tired of all the lying, it's disrespectful and wrong. So I told them both that curfew is now 9pm with no negotiations and I cancelled our 3 day holiday to Weston-super-Mare, so now my daughter is missing out on that cus I dont trust to leave them here dor 3 days. They said absolutely nothing when I told them this.
I just need to know... am I doing the right thing? Have I been to soft in the past? Am I doing anything right or wrong here!? Help.