Feel like ds hates me

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ds is almost 15 months since he’s been born I’ve been a sahm doing all nights feeds and about 90% of general childcare with him. The last few months he’s shown a preference to dp but recently it’s got to the point that he’ll throw himself back in dps arms and cry when he has to come over to me. This has got me so upset i just don’t know what I’m doing wrong or what I’m doing different. We go to classes together every day during the year and all summer we’ve been going out to soft play / parks every day I’ve been trying my hardest and don’t know what I’m doing wrong

Your son is totally normal. His behaviour is normal. You are taking it personally. Children go through a stage of favouring one parent over the other. Enjoy it while you can and use it as an opportunity to take a break. It doesn't mean you're doing anything wrong. Also, take care of yourself. They don't need to do something everyday. If you need a rest day as well then that's fine.

I’ve noticed that since my little boy started nursery and I went back to work a few months ago and so he sees me less, I now get just as many smiles as my husband does!

I just felt like maybe he enjoys being with my partner more because obviously I have to do all the household chores with him around so I try not to do anything like that anymore and do it while he sleeps but it hasn’t helped at all. It’s almost as if he’s being passed over to a stranger when he comes to me

It's probably because dad is a novelty and your there all the time. Honestly, use that to tour advantage and take the time to get a break. It will change.

My DD did exactly the same. It lasted a few months of only wanting Daddy and pushing mummy away and then I became the favourite again. I didn't do anything different. Maybe as PP has suggested it's the novelty factor - because we're always there we're "boring". It's nothing you've done and may well change next week!