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"No gifts required" - shall I bring nothing?

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pimlicopubber · 16/08/2023 20:19

My child is invited to a birthday party of a 4 year old child from her class.
I don't really know her child or her parents.
The invite says we shouldn't bring any presents - should I take it literally?
I usually take a gift, but the invites normally don't explicitly say that we shouldn't.
I'm thinking of all the wedding invites that say "your presence is the only gift we require" while sharing a link with the expensive gifts they'd like guests to buy them.

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Nomorecoconutboosts · 16/08/2023 20:22

I’d probably wrap a small book or hairs slides or something similar and say that my dc had chosen a small gift already. But I’m thinking £2-3 budget not loads.

BernadetteRostankowskiWolowitz · 16/08/2023 20:25

What's the wording? Is it like a hint for cash instead? I'd just send a box of Malteasers with a few packets of stickers wrapped with it.

Heather91 · 16/08/2023 20:30

A book token?

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Pooheadbumbum · 16/08/2023 20:30

Every year I ask for no gifts for the children, and for donations to be made to the local food bank instead…. And every year we get loads of gifts. I genuinely mean it, and would rather no gifts and I have discussed this at length with the children.

But it makes attendees very uncomfortable!

MexicanDrinkingWorm · 16/08/2023 20:33

Id take it literally, get a fun card and put a small pack of nice stickers inside it, maybe attach a choc lolly to the card too if you’re worried.
they’re probably just overrun with stuff!

stressbucket1 · 16/08/2023 20:35

I would pop a fiver in a card. They can put it towards something useful or give it to charity if they really don't want it

Miriam101 · 16/08/2023 20:37

What is the exact wording? “no gift required” to me is a bit different from “please do not bring gifts”. It sounds more like a “we know people are cash-strapped at the moment and don’t want anyone to break the bank on a kids’ party”. I would prob give something like a nice book. Sometimes parents are saying “please don’t load us up with plastic shite that will litter our home”

HappiDaze · 16/08/2023 21:17

Just stick a fiver in the card

kafelop · 16/08/2023 21:20

I've always just literally turned up with nothing. I don't think the parent or child can be upset to receive nothing if that's what they've requested.

timetorefresh · 16/08/2023 21:36

Fiver in a card. They dont want the house full of plastic tat

pimlicopubber · 19/08/2023 21:10

The wording is "I mean it when I say no gifts are required"

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pimlicopubber · 19/08/2023 21:11

Thanks for your suggestions, I'm thinking of getting a card and a tiny gift or a contribution to a charity

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T0rt0ise · 19/08/2023 21:16

pimlicopubber · 19/08/2023 21:10

The wording is "I mean it when I say no gifts are required"

I'd say that's pretty clear. Turn up with nothing and they'll be happy.

We do this as the kids don't need anything and I'd rather not deal with the environmental impact of unnecessary gifts/cards.

Letterposter · 19/08/2023 21:20

Money ina. Card to give to charity

IvanTheDragon · 19/08/2023 21:24

I'd take them at their word, maybe put a sheet of jazzy stickers in the card.

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