Overwhelmed with clutter and stuff

[Mumofthree2023]

Hi

I am pretty organised but I feel I am constantly organizing stuff and micromanaging 3 children and a husband! I work full time at home and refuse to do household chores because husband does not seem to take control of anything! I have to constantly tell him what to do because he cannot see things broken in the house so I have taken on the mountain of DIY tasks .. currently 50 things. So I leave the washing dishes and laundry to him. Food he makes once or twice a week otherwise it's just heating up from the fridge.

I have delcuttered in 2017 and I know it was a long time ago and I need to declutter again but at the moment there is so much to do everywhere and with a full time job and there children with a husband not pulling his weight I am just fed up.

I try and do something every day from my list but the list is never ending. I clear one or two things and have to add 5 things on whilst managing the children who are at school so I need to keep on top of it.

I just feel like I am alone doing everything and I have a clueless husband!

I feel like my life is out of control and always a mountain of stuff to do with work, admin, organizing, organizing day trips, diy, school work, extra curricular activities, tidying up all the time and many more stuff!!

My list never gets short - currently it has 100 things on there!

How do you combat everything?

Does DH not work? Either way both need to staying on top of the housework, spreading the load proportionally. Same with admin, sit down once a week and look at what needs to be done and share out the jobs.

I’m afraid decluttering especially when you have children is something that you always need to keep on top of. We do a toy declutter every summer holiday and before Christmas.

TOMM is good for keeping on top of house work, especially if you also get a robot hoover.

As you have loads of DIY jobs to do it’s worth considering hiring a handy person for a couple of days so they start to get the list down. It will take them 1/3 of the time it would take most people.

Thanks for the advice.

Yes husband works full time too.

Communication with him is awful.. typical man who does not listen because he does not either hear or forgets. So I have done a list of to do lists for both and he never starts on it unless I am the end of my tether. I feel like I am wasting my breath talking to him so I am now at the point where I don't feel the need to talk to him at all and 4 days on I don't miss communicating with him at all! I have kept the children busy throughout the whole summer holidays. The only time he took off was when we went on holiday.

I will call a handyman to crack on with the diy list.

I thought by getting on top of my organisation I would feel less stressed and anxious which I started on January but 8 months on my list of 500 has reduced to 100 but constantly adding to the list as I take stuff off, more is added. The children's homework and reading take up a lot of my time everyday as I want to make sure they do a little everyday.. especially reading if nothing else and they are still young so I have to be with them.

I just need to crack on and hope when the list is 50 I will feel less overwhelmed.

I do really need to start getting rid of toys and clothes as less stuff around the house the better. But again another thing to add to my list.

I'm the same but have a child that refuses to throw anything away 🫣 it's driving me mad

Oh gosh that is stressful. I would like to get the children involved in decluttering so they learn from the process. I am hoping they will be better at me at letting go

Sounds likes like you have a classic DH problem. You need to sit him down and tell him you’re overwhelmed and he needs to start pulling his weight. Have a weekly meeting say every Tuesday night or whatever works best and divide up tasks. Remind him two days before that you will be meeting again in 2 days.

Thank you. Yes I will try that. Kicking him out last Easter made him pull his socks up for a few months. The thing that annoys me he has to be told!
Think for yourself or think outside of the box!!

Annoying