The bottle saga - HELP!

[blueberry23]

I have DC2 who is 8 weeks old refusing to drink from a bottle (breastfed baby).

We had this with my eldest who never actually took a bottle despite spending a fortune on different types, pumping every day, trying and failing daily and stressing ourselves out (I really hated it!) and we just gave up in the end and I never left him until he was weaned at 18months!

I swore I wouldn't do the same again this time round and I'd just breastfeed but it would actually be really nice to not have all the responsibility all the time and to be able to go out occasionally.

We've tried

Warm milk
Cold milk
Formula
Breast milk
Different bottles
Different times of day
Different people offering the bottle (including me)
Before, during and after a breast feed
When baby is hungry and when he is not
When he is sleepy and when he is not

He just screams and hates it exactly like my eldest did. If you get it in his mouth he cries and spits the milk out. Sometimes chews the teat a bit and occasionally swallows some milk but looks utterly disgusted.

Do I just accept my fate? I don't want to persevere and stress us all out again for nothing.

Or perhaps I give it daily for two weeks and then make the decision to stop trying if no joy?

Am I missing something here?

I think you have tried a lot of things in a very short space of time. If you want baby to take a bottle I would offer warm milk when hungry but not starving and let someone else do it with you well and truly out of the way. Repeat multiple times until they get the idea that milk provided this way will be comforting.When my DC were babies we had 3 months mat leave so weaning onto a bottle was an issue for many. Mostly it was managed by just persevering . I would leave baby with the childminder and at first they had very little milk and would massively need topping up overnight but they quite quickly learned.

Thank you @yikesanotherbooboo that's good advice.

Anyone else got any tips or anything I've not considered yet?

My daughter was the same. Point blank refused every single bottle on the market until she was 6 months... 5 days before I was due to go away so great timing but a stressful time'

I loved breastfeeding but I wanted there to be some flexibility