Struggling with newborn

[Newmama20232023]

Let me preface this by saying I love my 10-week-old. But I am struggling so much as he is just so demanding. I have great help- hubby is always keen to help & so is my mum who lives nearby. I EBF and I enjoy it. What I don’t enjoy is that my LO fights sleep constantly. He naps for maximum 30 mins at a time in the day and wakes up crying, yawning & cranky. He is always overtired. Settling him for naps takes up to 30 mins. It doesn’t help that neither hubby nor my mum can settle him. I’m the only that one that can. I am absolutely exhausted of wrangling him to sleep all day every day. I follow wake windows, feed, burp, play, nappy change etc. Swaddled, white noise, dark room. Rocking & shushing or feeding to sleep. It doesn’t matter. He won’t fall asleep in the pram or in the car and if he does he wakes as soon as the motion stops. Hates the sling and the baby bouncer. I cry daily and I just don’t know how I can continue. I’ve consulted lactation consultants to make sure I BF correctly & taken him for cranial osteopathy. Nothing works. What am I doing wrong? What else can I try?

I’m sad for the OP that she has got to 10 weeks without any gentle guidance from her people.

I was alone 5.5 days a week when I had DD. No family within thousands of miles. My NCT group and health visitor were amazingly supportive. It doesn’t sound like OP has any sort of “village”.

all of this is normal. Acceptance is the key.

Not everyone has a NCT group and some health visitors are useless! I think it’s best to comment helpful advice or suggesting that the OP asks for help IRL as opposed to saying that their current threads are worrying.

As I said before OP, reach out to the relevant people for support. Don’t struggle with everything by yourself. All the best x

@GCWorkNightmare unfortunately where I live HVs are not supportive at all- I did reach out but nobody got back to me. My NCT group have all had babies that are already sleeping through the night & adhering to strict routines, hence I feel like the odd one out

Thanks everyone for helping me understand my little one’s behaviour is fine

@Newmama20232023 I just wanted to say not to pay any notice to what your NCT group say. Baby sleep (and other baby things) are the most competitive thing I have ever encountered and people say things that aren’t really true. All babies need to feed through the night until they are well over 6 months old.
Oh and potentially is your baby hungry and so can’t settle? Sometimes they need more milk depending on how well they are feeding and your milk supply. Just a thought….