overstimulated in motherhood......can you relate?

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I love my son so much he is nearly 3, he walks talks can ride his bike and is full of life. I love to watch him grow each and everyday, however I feel disappointed and ashamed in myself because there are certain noises I just cannot cope with and its to a point where I actually have to go into the bathroom and cry or scream into my hands if I don't release it this way i just stay in a really irritable mood, now nothing bad is happening to make me feel this way my son is just playing normally with normal toys that make noises, he likes to sing he likes to play his drums and make lots of noise as 3 year olds do. I have changed lots of his toys to soft and non noisy but you cant always get around this issue.

The problem is so bad that i actually cannot stand being in the house with my son because of these noises i feel i have to be on the go with him all day just so he is entertained and does not result to playing with toys and making those noises he is also starting to pick up that its irritating me by saying mum shall i bash this more for you?

again i need to express i know my son is not doing anything wrong its not destructive play or any kind of violence in it the noises are just too overstimulating for me to the point they change my whole mood and make me want to cry if this just sounds silly to you then please don't leave me a hateful comment I already feel guilty that i cant function in an environment that is full of noise in the background while still having to concentrate and be an adult i don't see the same annoyance in other adults so they are either very good at ignoring it or it just does not bother them i have spoken to other people and i do get looked at like none knows what im saying maybe i am not explaining it properly i dont know but i need help i cant always be out miles finding things more entertaining than just a rest day at home because i cant stand the noise.

I work have a house to run and rest days are much needed in the house.

Thank you for reading

I have a 5 year old who is the same and I wear a Loop ear plug when he's making a racket. I love the bones of him just holy moly, he's loud!

I get overstimulated by noise. Competing noises are a particular issue for me, as well as certain loud noises. What is your house like? Can you put the noisy toys in the bedroom for example, so there are more soft furnishings and you can be a bit further away? Or find other things that he likes to give you breaks from the noise? Maybe he needs a keyboard with headphones or similar!

DH isn't bothered by the noise, but struggles with clutter around.

For some reason I thought he was 4 when I posted, not turning 3, so probably needs fairly close supervision.

Yes just try to get regular breaks

Use noise cancellation headphones when he's really going for it. The Apple airpod Max noise cancellation are amazing. You can be right beside him and it won't bother you at all.

anyone know of a good bundle deal for the headphones i might treat myself my mum dad and the in laws to a pair also when they visit haha! Thank you for the advice :)

Hi OP

I can relate. Sounds like you are HSP - a Highly Sensitive Person.

Take a look at this website:

The Highly Sensitive Person (hsperson.com)

Maybe a bit of misophonia? I identify with a lot of what you've said. Certain repetitive noises - squeaky springs bouncing on the bed - really get to me. And the noise of a plastic carrier bag. Can't stand it. If there's music playing and one (or worse, both!) of the kids are crying then the music has to go off instantly I just can't handle all the things being loud at once.

Can't say I have a solution. I often have to walk away or go elsewhere for a quick cry to let the tension out. I keep getting ads for the Loop earbuds but for some reason can't quite commit to spending £30 on something that might not work.

Definitely some noise-cancelling headphones. My sister is autistic and always wears them around my children.

This is very relatable thank you for this link i have ordered 2 of the books! Very grateful x

Hi thank you for your comment and would you say the noise your children make does not bother you only your sister as she is autistic? x

Thank you for your comment sorry to hear you are also going through the same thing. I haven't yet found any decent strategies to find a positive way to cope with this yet but if i do i will sure let you know hang in there mumma! Yes i feel the same about the headphones they are expensive and my son is 3 he will spot them straight away and try to pull them out my ears haha! x