Advice on potty training please ( another one )

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I know this is another one potty training one, I’m sorry.

DS is 2,5 now and I’ve decided to slowly start potty training him. It’s one thing that I’ve been dreading for a long time but finally bought a potty on a weekend.
I’ve read information online and it pretty much says to look for signs that your child is ready but DS shows ZERO. Like none of them. He doesn’t tell me he will do wee wee, he doesn’t stay dry for long, definitely not even an hour, he doesn’t seem to be bothered by dirty nappy, doesn’t wanna change it when it’s wet. Only small thing he will do is that when he’s done poo he will say “ eew shower bubbles” meaning he wants to go to shower and wash his bottom. He’s also not really interested when me or his dad go to toilet, not showing interest what is that we do there.

Last month he had his 2 and a half year review, and HV asked about potty. When I explained to her the same thing I wrote here she said that maybe he’s not ready yet. But I would’ve thought 2,5 is like perfect time, maybe even on the longer end of scale.

Should I just try and crack on with it slowly and let’s see how it goes even if the child shows zero interest?

I'd say have the potty out, talk about it maybe watch some videos or read a book together about potty training. Then a couple of times a day have a try. Lots of praise for trying and a massive fuss/treat if he does anything. Then see where it goes.

If you try before they are ready it can be really stressful for everyone involved and can be a negative start to training. Definitely go at his pace and don't compare to other children.

Also I'd say average age is 2.5-3.5. But anything between 2 and 4 is typical so I'd say your on the early side of starting. My daughters were both around 2.5 but were both talking about it and aware of wee/poo on the toilet. My son who has asd was 6 and I didn't start til he was 3.5 as I could tell there was no way he would get it.

To be able to use a toilet/potty successfully there needs to be an ability to hold the bladder/bowel and an awareness of that. So the child needs to know they need to go and be able to hold it till they get to the toilet.

I'd leave it for now. My children weren't ready until they were almost 3, but I thought it may have been longer! If you force it now, you could really put them off trying if their own accord later, and it isn't worth the battle! Potty training isn't something you can just 'do' when it's convenient or when you decide, it has to be lead by the child.

I’ve had slightly different experiences to the above posters. I have decided to do it between 2 and 2.5, I have chosen a time that is convenient for me and just gone for it. Stayed at home for 3 days and kept an eye on them and they’ve picked it up pretty quickly. They had never sat on a potty before or shown any ‘signs’. I personally think it’s less confusing for them to go all out one day, rather than offering the potty but having the nappy as a back up. Once I offered the potty that was the only option, nappies were gone. Seemed to work with mine.