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Child(ren) coming to door for DD to play at 7:30/7:45pm

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mrlistersgelfbride · 08/08/2023 20:11

As title really. We live on very quiet relaxed estate, some children play out. A little girl in particular has been knocking for DD, on her own for about a year now. I used to go out with DD and kids but realising I was the lone adult, I stopped this summer.
This child is knocking at our house later and later. One night a few weeks ago it was 8pm. Today it was 7:35pm, asking DD to play out. She asks to come in our house! I said 10 minutes which turned into 20. I found it hard not to loose my patience tonight. I'm no good at discipling (wrong word) other people's kids. It gets you into trouble doesn't it. What would you say in this situation?
It is too late isn't it? The girls are 5, 6 later this year so still very little.
The girls mum has 3 kids and seems overworked, she doesn't seem to mind or care her DD does this.
What would you do?

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FoodFann · 09/08/2023 12:21

mrlistersgelfbride · 08/08/2023 20:53

I agree with people saying they shouldn't be unsupervised. I always used to go out but I'm the lone adult so I stepped away the last few weeks. I agree that they should be supervised and will start going again. I think it's crazy that there's no other adults to be seen. The kids are 5 at the youngest, some 6 and a couple are 7 or 8. None of them are supervised. Some wonder around on their own for hours! Had other kids at the door whose parents I've never met before!
I lived on a main road when I was young my parents were strict and this was never an issue.
Thanks for everyone's advice.

A child of the ages you describe, wandering around alone for hours is neglect.

Hiddenvoice · 09/08/2023 12:21

For me it would be a little late given the age of your dd. I would politely say not tonight and tell her it’s too late for your child but she’s happy to play tomorrow at an earlier time. If she knocks the door again then be polite but firm and explain you’ve already said it’s too late.
children bounce back so I wouldn’t worry about saying no to her, she will still come back and ask your dd to play.

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