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Please tell me im being ridiculous

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xxxJess123xxx · 05/08/2023 16:00

hi all,
I am currently working 2 days a week (full time before kids). These 2 days are when my eldest is in school and youngest preschool.

My youngest starts school in September

I have been offered a job to work 2 evenings a week in the week and a Sunday morning until 12pm

I have feeling terrible guilt that 2 days a week, I will be collecting the kids at 3.15pm from school and only seeing them for 2 hours or so until I have to go to work.

I am used to always being there to do bath and bed and feel bad, really bad.

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BLT24 · 05/08/2023 16:02

You are being ridiculous. The kids won’t care that you’re not there 2 days a week to do bath and bed. I don’t know about you or others but I had a lovely childhood but not a single memory of bath and bed routine with parents, think I can’t remember much from being that young tbh.

Hereforsummer · 05/08/2023 16:23

Assuming you will be leaving them with another competent adult they will be absolutely fine.

FictionalCharacter · 05/08/2023 16:46

Yes you are, and I think you know that! What harm do you think it will do to them? Or do you think they’ll really miss you for that short time? They won’t! The reality is that you will miss them!

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WeightoftheWorld · 05/08/2023 16:52

Yeah agreed, your kids will get used to it very quickly and it will barely register on their radar after that.

Obviously if you don't want to do it then don't but it's not going to be an issue for your kids.

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xxxJess123xxx · 05/08/2023 18:10

They will be at home with my husband (their dad)
I know they will be fine but I feel bad, reallllyyyy bad that I will only see them for 2 hours and then be going to work.
I can’t describe the feeling, it just feels bad after them being at school all day

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calmcoco · 05/08/2023 18:13

I would accept the feeling - you might feel like you're going to miss them, or you might have a learned sense a mum should always be there - but also take the job and keep reassuring myself they're fine and happy with their other parent.

caringcarer · 05/08/2023 18:31

Yep, you know this is ridiculous they will be safe at home spending time with their Dad.

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xxxJess123xxx · 05/08/2023 21:19

Calmcoco yes I think that might be it. I’m always there. Never usually go out much and always there after school, dinner, bath, bed.

and it’s a very weird feeling

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