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Did you have a small age gap? Be honest - what's it like!

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mamagosh · 02/08/2023 17:03

Hello everyone,

I've just found out I am pregnant with DC3. I have DC1 almost 4 and DC2 only 5mo. When baby is born, DC2 will only be about 14mo.

Has anyone had a similar experienced and survived 😂 I'm really excited but also, absolutely bricking it and wondering how the logistics will work out like cars etc

Thanks 😊 x

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MuMmaOf3littles · 02/08/2023 19:26

I've done it with my 4 children. I had DS1 in 2017, then DD in 2019 - 25 months between them. DS2 then in 2021 - 21 months between them and I've just had DS3, 3 weeks ago with a 26 month gap. So I've got a 6yo, almost 4yo, 2yo and a newborn 😅

pamplemoussemousse · 02/08/2023 19:27

13 months, the first 6 months were really hard going and younger one walked really early so it felt like there was hardly any respite before I was trying to be in 2 different places at once. It got better and I love their small gap now, they're so close and were very similar developmentally past 3/4 so played together rather than a much older child trying to fend off a baby/toddler.

They were in the same nursery room which I also loved, and are a school year apart.

Congratulations!

mistermagpie · 02/08/2023 19:53

I had two who were 20 months apart and then another one when the oldest was four.

When the littlest was a baby it was actually fine and she just came along wherever we were going, but as she's got older and more wilful (she's three now) it's become a bit more of a stress getting out and about. It's also pretty full on as the kids do ten different activities between them throughout the week so there's a lot of running about alongside the usual school run stuff. I would three days a week and think I would be very stressed if I worked full time!

We need a seven seater car and they are expensive, so it's something to be aware of but it's not a big deal.

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iwantchinese · 02/08/2023 19:55

I have an 11 month age gap and it is a pain getting them in and out of the car as i don't have a drive way so sometimes have to park a few streets over but other than that everything else has been great they are the best of friends and it's so nice seeing them play together. I actually found the early days really easy but now they're 1 and 2 it's getting harder with them not wanting to share etc! Also great as they're both girls i've saved alot of money on clothes and baby stuff as it was all passed down😂.

HalebiHabibti · 02/08/2023 20:00

Hard work! You will look like this. Only the faces are not smiling 🤣🤣 have a travel cot in the living room so you can put baby down without toddler attacking them.

It does get easier around 6 years in! Congratulations :)

Did you have a small age gap? Be honest - what's it like!

MiddleAgedMess · 02/08/2023 20:02

My 2 have a 14mo age gap but I've only got the 2, not 3!
Not going to lie it was incredibly hard in the early days, but now they are both at infant school they play so well together and always have a playmate at home. Have no regrets about it.

Ultraviolet85 · 02/08/2023 20:07

21 months between my two. Like running the gauntlet in the early years- thank you colic and Covid lockdowns! But it’s getting easier as they get older and I’m glad we didn’t wait about too long, they really are little bffs.

RandomMess · 02/08/2023 20:09

5.5 gap then 14 month gap.

Only thing that made it hard was that DC3 had undiagnosed silent reflux.

It was hell, but it would have been hell no matter what age gap.

I loved having them close I age. Double pushchair similar abilities and interests for quite a while.

camperjam · 02/08/2023 21:46

There are 15 months between my two and honestly it was awful to begin with. My 2nd was very hard work and wouldn't let me put him down and my 1st wasn't walking.
The first year or so is a blur and I had to take a year off unpaid as nursery fees were a killer.

But now they're both at school it's much easier and I'm glad the age gap isn't bigger. It was good to get the baby years over and done with.
They play together and keep each other company. I hope they are always close.

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mamagosh · 02/08/2023 21:56

Wow thank you so much for all the replies. Really appreciate you all sharing your stories with me.

The jist I have gotten is that I should just close my eyes for the first year and then it should be lovely from then on 😂

@Babdoc so sorry for your loss, that must have been so difficult 💐

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Puttingitoutthere44 · 02/08/2023 22:33

There are 13 months between my 2 youngest. When they were babys it was like having twins. The older one was behinde in development. Still not walking /talking etc.

Now they are 7&8 and they are very close. They play together all the time. They hug each other and give a kiss good night sometimes end up in the same bed . They have each others back. They rarely fall out if they do its sort lived.

The practical side of 2 car seats . Double pram. Lack of sleep is hard . But they grow out of that.

MaMisled · 02/08/2023 22:39

My 2 girls are 16mths apart and yes, at times it was tough but mostly it was great fun! They were too different to get on between 10 and 15yrs old but since then, and now 24 and 26, they've been so close it's wonderful to see.

babybird123 · 02/08/2023 22:53

17months here. First 3-4 years were horrendous and unrelentingly hard. They are now 8 and 9 and play brilliantly together (and obviously fight like most siblings)

SisterAgatha · 02/08/2023 23:39

When I look back on my Facebook memories it looks like we had a ball, i just honestly cannot remember any of it without the photos so maybe taking a lot of pictures will help you if you do find it such an intense time that you forget.

It’s great when they aren’t fighting and they always have each other and little interests. My eldest adores them.

I am just worried now that my youngest will feel the loss of her bro in the next year when he moves playgrounds as she has always had her brother right there. Same for years 6 and 7 when he goes off and leaves her for a year. They miss each other a lot if a day goes by.

Lucky91 · 03/08/2023 13:14

My 2 boys are 12 months apart and are now 8&9 and my daughter is 13. I won’t lie it was hard when they were younger and I was always exhausted because I didn’t have much family support and DH had to work. You do develop a routine which is key and it does get easier when they get older. My boys are close and have a lot of shared interests and play together but also do clash over things and argue but that’s just part of having siblings. I love that they will always have each other and their sister. I’m sure you will be fine, all the best x

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mamagosh · 04/08/2023 06:43

Thank you again for the replies - I've been experiencing some light bleeding and my tests are getting lighter so, I think I have miscarried. Just waiting for the blood results from my doctor.

Looks like I won't get to experience the chaos after all 😞

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WTFdidwedo · 04/08/2023 11:32

I'm so sorry to hear that, make sure you take care of yourself.

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