9 mo started nursery - cries on off whole day

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Hi

My son has started nursery, he had a couple hours a day trial each day last week and started a "proper" day today.

Again he bas spent most of the trial and this morning crying and won't eat.

I know he has to adjust (hes never been looked after anyone except me and husband as we don't have any family within 3 hours)

I just wanted people's experiences - is this normal? When does it start to get better?

I rang to check and it's made me feel sick. Unfortunately not working isn't financially viable for my family.

Hi my daughter was 13 months when she started, trial week she was the same and then when she started for real it was the same crying on and off, she does 3 days a week.

I had myself sick with worry that she wouldn't sleep or eat for them but she did both, she didn't eat alot for them in the beginning

I'd say it took roughly 3 weeks for her to settle and some days she still might have been a bit teary but no where near as bad. She then began eating more for them aswell.

She started in the baby room and just as she was settled and eating etc it was almost time for her to start in the next older room, she now 16 months, and it's like starting all over again, she cries going in as it's different staff and kids, but she is sleeping for them but back to not eating as much

It just takes time but it will happen

It will absolutely get better. My daughter was 10 months when she started and the first three weeks were AWFUL. Hysterical at drop off I used to cry on the way into work. Got better by week 4 and since then she's absolutely loved it. Runs in everyday holds hands with her friends in the queue. She's 2.5 now and still loves it!

She also didn't eat or sleep at the start and now has double helpings and puts herself down to nap with her teddy happily!

Sorry you are going through this. It’s not nice for either of you, my daughter was the same.

entolled her at 21 months and the first 6 weeks were awful, screaming hysterically and not eating at all the first week, so ended up doing very short days. After 6 weeks she settled and loves it so much now we struggle to get her home.

I do wish I’d put her in earlier bcos she loves it so much and learns a lot.

give him time and when you bring him home spend lots of quality time with him. he’ll adjust

Hang in there. It absolutely will get better. Some babies magically live nursery from the first moment but the vast majority need a shorter or longer time to get used to it and to learn that you always come back at the end of the day.

Also, keep in mind that your son cries during the day with you - he's tired, hungry, teething, whatever - that's how pre-verbal babies communicate. The thing to check is that the nursery are doing the right things and responding appropriately, eg with a cuddle.