The bare minimum

[leanned1]

Hi everyone,

What would you all consider the bare minimum within a co parenting relationship?

My ex fiancé has our son 3 days a week and one day on the weekend. He pays his child maintenance monthly.

Am I alone for thinking this is the bare minimum, he disagrees and thinks it's easy for me to say because I don't work and he works full time.

Thanks

Isn't he having the child for four out of the seven days in a week and paying maintenance. Seems ok to me.

Is this a reverse? Or are you the new partner?

he has the child more than you. Why are you not paying him?

I'd say he's doing about 50/50 if he's having him three or four days a week plus paying CM.

I suppose it depends how he parents when he has him, he could be doing the bare minimum, but it's impossible to say based on your OP.

Do you mean in terms of the mental load?

4 days a week....that's pretty much 50/50.

Yabu

I'd consider bare minimum to be an hour or so on the weekend

That's 59/50 so seems pretty fair and complete opposite to bare minimum

My ex has our daughter every other weekend for one night - I feel that's bare minimum

What you've described- if you think that's bare minimum then so is the amount you have ?

Does he have them over night or just during the day? Bare minimum would be a couple of hours on a Sunday afternoon

Really? 🧐

Come on op.

Why don't you work?

YABU. I think he's doing more than his fair share.

Bare minimum? Are you serious? My ex has taken our kids out once in 6 years and has never had them overnight, and pays no maintenance THATS the bare minimum 🙄 I would love him to have them 3 days a week I call that very involved

And 50/50 arrangements he doesn't need to be paying any CM so I think after the replies you will get on here you may feel luckier than most

My son sees his dad every other weekend for 1 night. That’s 7% of the year.

your child sees theirs nearly 50% of the time- that is way more than the bare minimum!

If he’s doing the bare minimum, so are you! It’s pretty much 50/50 from what you describe, yet only one of you pays maintenance.

He has your DS 4/7 days, works full time and pays maintenance. How is that the bare minimum? What else do you want him to do?

Nice try.