Do kids just have different temperaments ?

[lilbeaniee]

Just wondered my DD is 19mo and really reached tantrum stage - lots of frustration when she can’t communicate what they want but they’re better out of the house I think she gets bored easily as she goes to nursery 4 days a week so she is always on the go because as a family wr don’t really / have never really sat in had chill days

her cousin is 1.5 months younger and when I seen them together the other day , her cousin seems a bit calmer over all. DD runs everywhere and wants to open the cupboards etc and just be around! Her cousin just ambled around really and seems like chilled overall, DD only had one meltdown at the end when she tried to grab a dummy but we said no (it wasn’t hers and we are doing less dummy of a day)

Is it normal some kids tantrum more than others? I only have the 1 so right now very overwhelmed with tantrums and it stresses me out (trying not to let it)

Yes. Very different temperaments. I have one of each. My first was a bloody nightmare volatile gremlin and I felt like an utter failure. Second is easy going and chilled as anything. Validated that I wasn’t a shit parent. IMO some people have both/ all their children on the average - easy side and then get smug about it. It’s not too you’ve had a hard one that you understand.

Yes, for sure. They're all different!

Who knows - maybe your DD's cousin may be more difficult at a different age. Or maybe not, but your DD will be brighter.

I think the best advice is to try and go with the flow of your child's personality. I'm sure you're doing a great job x

Of course, just like adults. I have two very different children, honestly you wouldn’t even know they are sibs.

Of course. Like all human beings. Kids aren't powered by AI, they're just small humans!

Definitely.
Out of all the siblings I know (my own two included) most are very different temperaments.

Okay already feel a bit better!! Because lately I have felt like such a SHITE mum!

My DD has always been easily frustrated this sounds odd but before she can do something. So before she could crawl she’d rock and then throw a hissy fit. Before she could walk properly if she tripped or stumbled - she would kick off. But right now I feel it’s because she can say words but not sentences so she sometimes will grab my hand and take me where she wants to go (E.g. the fridge and points to a yogurt 😂)

but I’ve been really mulling it over like is it because she has 30-45 minutes of miss Rachel in the day? (Usually when I need a minute or to brush her teeth or she bolts but I’ll do it if her teeth are in good health!) everyone’s said to me that is silly to worry about screen time. Even I’m 27 and I remember cartoons as a kid and I’ve turned out okay I believe ?
I wondered is it because of me am I too stressed do I create negative energy , do I need to buy more toys? All of this stuff

we get out a lot and even with my parents close we nip to theirs now and then

I don’t think we’ve ever spent a full day at home apart from 3 (she had a bad bug last winter and just slept loads) in her life so is it just she wants to be on the go?

so many questions

Totally different.

My eldest was always "well behaved" - never made too much mayhem. Emotionally quite fragile though and prone to tears. I used to feel a bit embarassed at baby/toddler groups - other kids seemed to bounce, but she burst into floods of tears every time she fell over. It's taken some work and a lot of thought to help her with this, and she's still fragile if she's tired or ill (6 now).

My younger two are totally different. Eldest would always stop if I told her to. Her brothers.... nope. My mum is flumoxed/horrified that if she shows she is angry by raising voice/frowning that my boys are most likely to laugh. They do bounce like rubber balls though....

Even though the boys are identical twins there are differences in temperament. They have been obvious since about 4 months (now nearing 3). One is MUCH more stubborn. Has always thrown himself into things energetically - first to sit/crawl/walk. But tires out more easily,and doesn't have the patience to sit and eat a decent meal so prone to "hangry". He tantrums much more than his brother as a result.

Oh gosh yes! My 3 couldn't be more different.

DC1 - confident, bubbly, scatty and loses everything, makes friends everywhere - easy baby but really bad MH as teen.

DC2 - shy, extremely well behaved as a child, fierce and headstrong but very controlled and holds her own. Teachers think she's an angel - rules the roost at home!

DC3 - absolutely bonkers toddler but very loving. As teen calm, polite, never has to asked to do homework! helpful and the easiest of the three!