I dont remember it being this hard - help needed

[justanothermanicmonday1]

I have just gave birth to DC2 and she is 3 days old. She is an absolute dream.

She sleeps fantastic through the day, no issues at all. However this is the second night in a row with little to no sleep through the night. Tonight has been so tough. Constant crying 😢 and I'm trying my hardest to settle her. She won't sleep anywhere through the night apart from on me. Then it comes go 5/6am and she'll happily sleep in her next to me?

Please someone tell me this is completely natural (so the 4th trimester says)

You'd think I'd know this as I have a DC1 who is 16 months old. I vaguely remember the first week being the toughest.

I will also note that I have a fantastic DP who is desperate to help/take over but I'm an anxious new mum again and would feel better being up with her whilst he rests and gets up early with DC1 and does nursery run etc.

Words of wisdom/encouragement is welcome!

Thank you!

Bump

Congratulations!

It will absolutely get better and settle.

You're still recovering and baby is adjusting.

How are you feeding baby?

I understand you wanting dh to sleep to do the nursery run etc but make sure that things are evenly split... could he stay up with baby until 11pm and you go to bed at 8pm so you get 3 hours then?

Ideas (sure you've thought of these though as not your first rodeo 😂):
Wear the bedsheet down your dress so it smells of you
Hot water bottle in cot before putting baby down
White noise
Consider safe cosleeping
Swaddling
Dummy

Hi @justanothermanicmonday1 congratulations on the birth of your DD!
It will get better, honestly it will. My baby is 10 months now and now it's all about meal times and eating solids, i was actually thinking giving a bottle every 2 hrs was easier then getting my baby to eat toast lol!
You're doing great hun xx

Congratulations on your beautiful new baby daughter op!

This is completely normal.

The third night is traditionally seen as the worst where I live (not in uk).

Please allow your dp to do his bit. My dh used to walk the baby around the long hospital corridors in the early hours of the morning with the baby on his shoulder. All the husbands were doing the same and were advised to do so by the midwives.

Thank you all for the lovely and supportive messages. They made me really emotional reading them out to DP this morning 😂

DD is being bottle fed. She's doing really well. 2oz every 2-3 hours. She's really windy though and hasn't went to the toilet since she was 24 hours hold. Been told that's normal from the midwife though.

We finally managed to put her down at 5:30 and we safely co slept and I got a good few hours sleep. This wasn't what I originally had planned but I'll do anything for a bit of sleep and to make sure our other daughter isn't disturbed in the night.

We're currently in a 1 bedroom and our house is being built right now. It keeps being delayed. Hopefully we will be moved in by the end of august and I'll relax a bit more as DD1 will have her own room.

This is day 3 of PP, so my hormones are flying. I know this is all temporary and we will be in a routine soon enough (eventually😂)

Thanks again xx