Moving in from shh-pat

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I'm struggling to get my 9 month old to sleep in any decent chunks.
After an initial 3 hr stint he's up every hour or so overnight.

He does have allergies and is teething but this has been constant since he was 3 months old.

I've managed to easily get him to sleep in his cot with the shh-pat method and he was fairly happy with that. It's been about 6 weeks. But he still wakes frequently.

I've tried to move onto just sitting next to his cot seeing as he's had plenty of time to adjust to not being held to sleep. But if I move away from the cot he absolutely loses his mind.

I've just tried holding out a bit and he was beside himself and after half hour was screaming at the thought of lying down.

I have a 4 year old too, and 9mo is LOUD. So it's really disruptive.

We do cosleep come the early hours of the morning but he sleeps no better in with us.

My husband takes the 11pm-3am shift for me (because I'm also breastfeeding and LO gets super frustrated if I don't feed him when I go to him at night).
But I still wake when he wakes.

I'm at a loss of what to do next because I don't think my mind can take much more of this sleep deprivation. Plus he's a very big and strong baby so I dread what he'll be like as he gets older if he's frustrated overnight.

I've put it down to sleep regressions, tummy pain, teething etc etc but to be honest there's no signs of any improvement after months so I don't think it's a passing phase.

Any advice appreciated

Could he be over tired? Is he getting enough sleep during the day and going to bed before he's too tired?

If you're happy with his sleep during the day and bedtime then I'd consider a different sleep training method such as pick up put down or controlled crying if you're comfortable with that. It will take some time and patience no matter what method you do, I look at it as short term pain for long term gain.

Good luck with whatever you decide.

No ideas just solidarity. I'm also trying and failing to wean off shhh pat. Mine currently wakes every hour all night at 7 months. I feel like a zombie and don't have the energy to be the parent I want to be to my older one. My husband used to do a similar shift to yours but baby now won't settle for him at all. It's pants.

Thank you. I definitely think overtired Ness could be an issue.
I've gone back to shh pat for now and to be honest all I need to do it out my hand on his back and he settles. So I'll out up with this for now and gradually try and ease off. He's going 3 hr stretches the last 2 nights which is more bearable 🤞