Do you feel like parenthood has changed you?

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I have a one year old and I feel like almost a shadow of my former self. I used to be very sociable, loved going out, spontaneous, care free I guess because I could be. Motivated at work and always seeking a challenge.

Now - I don’t even like the idea of going out in the evenings socialising, especially anywhere loud, feels me with dread (even tho it’s a rarity nowadays anyway)
I want something quiet and low key. I feel overwhelmed anywhere busy. Prefer to go to a farm or a national trust, a nice walk at the weekends with DC and have a night in with DH watching a film with a glass of wine. I’m struggling with work, I can’t seem to mentally handle the complex work I have anymore whereas before I thrived off it and now I find it hard.

I enjoy being a mum so it’s now PPD.

I used to be more “fun” but I can’t be bothered - does anyone else feel like this?

I mean not PPD not now!

That all sounds completely normal, life changes, priorities change.

You might feel like doing the more busy, loud socialising a bit later down the line, maybe when DC are in school.

But at the moment it's all about health, sleep, family, and chugging along.

If I tried to be 'fun' now I'd only be taking away energy from things that I really need it for! I still see my friends but it's breakfast, lunches and parks.

I have a 1 year and feel the same way.

I don’t even recognise my former self any more. And it’s harder since none of my friends have kids so I feel alone in this. I also love being a mum though and have never been so happy! It’s very bitter sweet.

Yes, it's totally changed me. I think that's totally normal.

I do hope to get back to some of my previous hobbies/interests as the children get older. Also hoping to put a bit more into my career. For me, that's why I put an upper limit on what age I wanted to stop having children, although I have bent it a little..... DC4 due 3 months after I turn 36. I wanted to have them all in school by the time I was 40 if possible.

Children have changed who I socialise with and what we tend to do. Obviously my evenings are dominated by bedtime. We dont travel much either - more logistically difficult and more expensive.

I find I'm mostly still me at work though.

My DS is 10 and I feel like that definitely. Used to love parties and clubbing etc. now prefer a Netflix series and a takeaway. Love quiet weekends and relaxing.

Not the same with work though, I still love that challenge and have been promoted twice since DS and enjoy me job.

Yep I’m a husk and my eldest is almost a teenager, I went grey the year I had him.

I felt exactly like this at the same stage and tbh have only just started coming back to my old self. DS is 2.5. Be kind to yourself and just go with it - maybe this is permanent, maybe it'll change back, either way becoming a mother is an enourmous life change and it's bound to affect your identity.

I don't think it's changed me in a good way.

Knowing how close they are to death, how easy it is for one of them to die, has broken me in a way I don't think an ever really be fixed.

I'm less patient these days, of everything. Including them when they're all screaming and my brain just closes down

I can't even compensate it with being a great Mom because I'm not.

Knowing how close they are to death, how easy it is for one of them to die, has broken me in a way I don't think an ever really be fixed.

Are you me?

If so,can you come and take the twins for a few hours pls?