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HomemadeChips · 27/07/2023 17:54

Anyone else's DC starting nursery soon? DS1 has just turned 3 and starts next month, 5 mornings a weeks. I'm happy sad! Happy for him that he'll get to meet friends and have fun, happy for me that I'll get to spend some quality 1-2-1 time with DS2. But... I'm going to miss him and so will his brother. We've been together all day, every day since he was born and, as much as it'll be nice to only have 1 toddler to contend with for half the day, it's also going to feel weird without him. I'm having mixed emotions which I know is normal. I hope he's going to enjoy it! Couldn't bear leaving him there if he gets upset 😢

Just wondering how others in the same position are feeling?

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HomemadeChips · 27/07/2023 19:15

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xyz111 · 27/07/2023 19:27

Once he's there, you'll be glad of the peace and quiet😂 Personally I would do maybe 2/3 full days instead of the 5 mornings a week. Then you get more hours to do something eg meet up with friends and go shopping.

xyz111 · 27/07/2023 19:28

Sorry, missed the part that you have DS2 😂. Maybe when ds2 goes, then do that 😜

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YourNameGoesHere · 27/07/2023 19:43

Please don't show him you're upset about the whole thing and you don't really want him to go, nothing will make him less likely to settle and have a good time than an over emotional mum. If you can't wholeheartedly drop him off without getting upset then please let someone else take him.

Also before DS2 starts I'd recommend having some days without him it's very unusual to have spent all day everyday with your child for 3 years and giving the some opportunities to have experiences without you will probably help both yourself and your second child when his turn comes.

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HomemadeChips · 27/07/2023 20:04

xyz111 · 27/07/2023 19:28

Sorry, missed the part that you have DS2 😂. Maybe when ds2 goes, then do that 😜

Another 2 years before DS2 starts 🥴🤣

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Olika · 27/07/2023 20:08

I absolutely loved it when mine went at 10 months but I returned to work though. But I was working from home hence I could do bits and pieces around the house on my breaks. It was hard every morning as I had to leave her there crying and I was crying waking out if the nursery door. But it got easier to leave her there after a week or so and suddenly she was excited to go in and wanted her key carers to take her from my arms. I was so amazed how much she learnt as well as suddenly she had new skills that were definitely thanks to the nursery,

Thewildthingsarewithme · 27/07/2023 20:11

I’ve been at home with my LO every day since his was born barring a brief hospital stay and he starts in September too at 3. It’s going to be such a change for us both and completely understand the happy sad feeling, what a gift though to have had this time together ❤️

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HomemadeChips · 27/07/2023 20:12

YourNameGoesHere · 27/07/2023 19:43

Please don't show him you're upset about the whole thing and you don't really want him to go, nothing will make him less likely to settle and have a good time than an over emotional mum. If you can't wholeheartedly drop him off without getting upset then please let someone else take him.

Also before DS2 starts I'd recommend having some days without him it's very unusual to have spent all day everyday with your child for 3 years and giving the some opportunities to have experiences without you will probably help both yourself and your second child when his turn comes.

I have been talking nursery up and getting him all excited to start, not that I've needed to, he's more than ready and is looking forward to it. I'm 99% sure he'll love it, it's more me I'm worried about to be honest. I have a tenancy to always jump to worst case scenario.

EVERY day was a slight exaggeration. He has spent days and nights with his grandparents, but I've never left him in the care of a stranger. He's only ever been looked after by family, so it's hard to walk away and leave him with people we don't know and trust. I know it's the same for everyone and I'm sure we'll both quickly adjust.

As long as he's happy, I'll be happy.

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HomemadeChips · 27/07/2023 20:13

Tendancy

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Olika · 27/07/2023 20:08

I absolutely loved it when mine went at 10 months but I returned to work though. But I was working from home hence I could do bits and pieces around the house on my breaks. It was hard every morning as I had to leave her there crying and I was crying waking out if the nursery door. But it got easier to leave her there after a week or so and suddenly she was excited to go in and wanted her key carers to take her from my arms. I was so amazed how much she learnt as well as suddenly she had new skills that were definitely thanks to the nursery,

I'm sure he'll come on leaps and bounds too. Nice to hear your DD settled quickly.

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HomemadeChips · 27/07/2023 20:16

Thewildthingsarewithme · 27/07/2023 20:11

I’ve been at home with my LO every day since his was born barring a brief hospital stay and he starts in September too at 3. It’s going to be such a change for us both and completely understand the happy sad feeling, what a gift though to have had this time together ❤️

It definitely is a gift and I feel very lucky. It's just gone too fast 🥺

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Noella12 · 27/07/2023 20:38

Mine went to Nursery last year at just turned 3 for 5 mornings a week. I think maybe the first two weeks we both found the adjustment hard but I just kept positive for him and he has had such a fantastic year, he's made good friends and enjoys going. It's just part of our routine now and I love it. I have a younger one too and use the morning time for more one on one with them then when the older got home we did lovely trips out to the park/swimmers/soft play in the afternoon and the days flew in. He's now excited and confident to start school this September. It's the end of one chapter and the beginning of another for you, it's ok to be sad about it. But it's probably what your DC needs at this stage of his life and you've no doubt given him secure attachment to you so he should be fine going and leaving you for brief planned periods. As others have said keep positive as he will pick up on your feelings too

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