Looking for advice on how to help 19 month old toddler adjust to life with 8 week old baby. Initially, older DD was absolutely fine and continues to go to nursery 5 days a week, albeit shorter days but it's helped recovery from CS now DH is back at work and we have no family support close to us.
Suddenly this week everything has become a battle. She's screaming and getting upset whenever I'm feeding newborn DD. She only wants to picked up and won't walk over to where I'm sitting so I can comfort her. She won't allow me to pick her up whilst I'm holding newborn, I have to put newborn down (DD1 points to DD2s chair or moses basket).
We've also had refusal to go into nursery for the last few days. As soon as we get there she starts screaming and won't go in and at nursery she has become very reserved and clingy with her key worker.
I feel so sad for her when she was such an outgoing, happy little girl and now she spends most of her days in tears or screaming! I feel like I've ruined her life by having DD2 but then I also feel guilty for DD2 for thinking like that! Please tell me it gets better!
I've tried so many things with DD1 and different ways of talking to her and explaining and/or acknowledging her feelings but I think she's just too young to understand.