How to make ex more involved?

[MaxwellCat]

I know I will be told I can't make someone parent or whatever but I need to find a way to make my ex have our kids more / overnight. I can't cope with my daughters behaviour (severely autistic) I'm sick of the judgement / comments outside. I have to take her everywhere with me i cannot leave her at home or with anyone and yes its easy to say ignore or thick skin etc but when its happening daily I can't cope with 6 weeks of this (she's out of school anyway but at least when its school I only have her to deal with) she screams constantly. I need to find a way to get my ex to step up I don't want social work involvement so no comments suggesting that just how or ways I can explain to my ex he needs to be more involved?

And I know people say its easier on your own but it isn't maybe if you have well behaved NT children then maybe it is but she needs constant supervision she gets hrc dla taking her anywhere is a nightmare I've joined groups but most people basically all in my situation have a partner so no clue what it's like to do it alone.

You can’t.

ex DH is supposed to have our daughter one day a week in the hols.

gave him all dates in January.

DD is being picked up by his mum instead this week 🙄

these men are just shite.

you will be disappointed if you expect him to behave any better than what he’s already shown you.

You can’t. As much as you want to you can’t.

I know you don’t want social work involvement but is there scope for them or local charities to offer/provide respite care? Any autistic support groups for you?

I lone parent a NT kid with a dad that’s barely involved so I get how difficult it is, I really feel for you, it sounds incredibly hard.

Groups won't help all the children there are young mine is a teenager. Their are no charity's here its all done through social services and I have had them involved in the past and they were awful I will not be involving them again. I don't want to leave the house for the rest of the holidays I can't deal with the people outside being rude to us every day its the same thing.