Daughters family bringing me down as a mother while grieving

[Babygirlmum]

I am waiting on a letter to attend court with DDs father, however I have been allowing him to have her over night which is what he originally wanted, he hasn't been in her life since she was born however that is for another story, I might sound picky but I found out DD was staying in a room with his parents which I had a go at him for as if she wakes up in the night he isn't going to be there for her, am I being picky by doing this? last weekend he dropped her home he lives nearly two hours away, and he basically started saying stuff to me in which I new they had been slagging me off like Dd is to big for the pram, it's a doona and is convenient for the car, she also has a bigger pram but this is what she went in, they said she shouldn't have the same dummy she has a dummy for comfort I don't see any wrong in that, they said a few nasty things and I feel like it's to get at me, my ex has now blocked me and expects to see DD after blocking me, when I can't stay in contact with his mother as she has been slagging me off and I now feel very uncomfortable, I have not long lost my dad and they know I am going through a bad time and all as they want to do is abuse my vulnerability and use it as a excuse to get at me knowing I'm down and unable to do everything, what do people think about this?

How old is your daughter? Did you go straight from not seeing her to overnight contact? And most importantly, have you had legal advice?

This sounds really awful for you and potentially for her, and I think you are right to be concerned. However, it's usually not wise to give the appearance of trying to withhold contact. Are you sure that he has applied to the court? If so, have you had the chance to go through mediation?

You haven’t said how old she is. Does he live with his parents? I don’t see that it makes a huge difference who is there for her in the night as long as someone is tbh. In a perfect world it would be him but as long as the grandparents love her and treat her with kindness I’d be inclined to let the room issue go.
Re the pram (stroller?) I’ve had a quick look and it says up to 13kg, if she is heavier than that, or big enough to be being squashed in, then they may have a point. Even if you were still with him there would still be the differences of opinion re dummy and other issues. MN is full of MIL posts! Try not to take it to heart, they aren’t fully in your life, you don’t have to spend any significant time with them, so don’t pay any attention to what they may or may not be saying and just focus on DD.
I’m sorry for your loss

Don't give them your stroller they should buy their own

Is he on the birth certificate?

If he refuses to communicate with you he doesnt get the privilege of your child that's a privilege reserved for adults

Ultimately you may have to wait for court are you going to mediation first? Perhaps an agreement to not put down the other parent in the child's company Canberra agreed upon? (Literally had the social worker scream at my ex she would reccomend zero contact with him if he and his family couldn't control themselves around the children)

My Daughter is 1, well she is 15 months old and she is small and not to big for the doona, she doesn't go in it anymore now as she has a bigger troller however there was not any harm in her going init I just feel like they are getting at me for some reason, I am I'm a vulnerable state at the minute and they know I am so I feel like they are abusing my vulnerability and making me believe I am doing a bad job when I know that I am a very good mum and mum my baby very much, everything I do I do for her, this is very wrong of them to do, my ex has blocked me in which how am I supposed to do parent with that, he has also been using me for a long time and then just blocks me like I'm not going through enough.