Hey, I am having another moan about my ex. Ex has just collected ds and am in tears cos i already miss ds and stressed cos ex seems so .. well not really there / on the ball.
My ex has residency.. long long story but has been explained a little on other threads but as i end up going on about it on other threads that arent really set up to talk about this situation.. hence this thread. I guess this gives me an outlet for this.
Ex asked me to have ds originally for saturday as he had a nite out.. I of course jump at chance to have ds (he is 4 and my little angel.. I know probably every mum says this, but my son is the most wonderful son a mum could wish for)
I have phonecall on Thurs from ex saying ds is too poorly to go to school and would i have him friday.. which i agreed to of course. Collected ds, he had temp of 38.2c checked when last calpol etc.. and basically nursed him. Come Sunday morning ds is saying he cant walk to loo (5am in the morning) I am thinking ok, maybe he is just tired etc.. Ds then tells me his legs actually hurt to walk.. all around knee joints. I contacted nhs direct for advice and advised ex p that they felt it was part of a viral infection and took ds to walk in surgery. They basically agreed with NHS direct, by this time ds was limping a little but otherwise fairly bright, was advised to keep him off school monday. Advised ex who asked if i could have him overnight again. Last night ds temp remained high and i treated with calpol, temp actually peaked 39.2c. Ds was also complaining of left hand side abdo pain which hurts a 100. Dr called again & advised to monitor and nurse son. Did usual of damp facecoth, encouraging fluids, paracetamol, ibuprofen etc Ds has slept for most of day and is deff too poorly for school tomorrow.
Ex p collected ds and told me he didnt understand the temp thing.. as in what is a high temp! Then proceeded to tell me he doesnt own a sodding thermometer and judges temp by how hot ds feels!! I mean ffs has he not heard of febrile convulsions??? He also proceeded to tell me that he was poorly too and said his head was hotter than ds! Who is the child? I told ex p when ds had calpol & ibuprofen and he didnt really appear to listen! He has taken ds to his because his darling mother (sarcasm) cant wait till christmas to give ds xmas presents so i giving them to him now?
I am so frustrated and stuck as to what to do
. I said I would call tomorrow to see how ds is & I have him from Friday till Monday and then again xmas eve for christmas but I am worried ex wont pick up ds temp right and might give him too much calpol. Ex also seems to be so caught up in his illness and he doesnt seem bothered by ds. Am i being OTT? Oh and I know the ex p will be smoking in the flat agin with ds, and he doesnt seem bothered about the effect on ds and doesnt even have smoke alarms. Help 