Not maternal but want a family

[Startrekkeruniverse]

I’m 35, never been maternal. I like being around kids but never been one to coo over them. But I feel like I want a baby - when I see friends with their babies it makes me think I want a family. I just can’t imagine being someone’s mum, being mumsy or being pregnant/giving birth. It seems alien. How do women even go through birth? And how do you make the leap to start ttc. Interested to know if anyone has been through these feelings and now has kids! Any wise words? X

I've never been fussed about other people's children, but about 5 years ago I felt a biological drive to get pregnant.

I am obsessed with my baby, he is the cutest thing I've ever seen, I'm just besotted.

You need to have a chat with your partner and see where he stands, then get down to business

I have near zero interest in anyone else's children. I have absolutely no maternal feelings for other children. I absolutely adore my, now adult, kids. I loved every second of them growing up. Best thing I've ever done.

You can't know what it's like until you have a child, so don't let how you feel without kids put you off.

Same as both pps above. I remember the faux grimace I used to do when ppl show pictures of their kids lol 😂

Now I actually love seeing pics of other kids. It’s weird. It’s not something that comes until it’s there IYSWIM.

Same here. Honestly the first year was hard as I was completely clueless (made much worse by covid so no friends and family to learn from) but (massive cliche alert) becoming a mum is the best thing I've ever done. DD is wonderful and I'm sure I bore people by wittering on about her. Other people's children have miraculously become cuter too (still don't like interacting with them too much tbh).

I wasn't remotely maternal. I'm still not particularly interested in other peoples children. To be honest, I only really had a baby because I thought that I should.

I love my children more than life itself, like absolutely beyond measure, I'm more maternal with them than I ever thought possible. It's a bit of a big 'try it, you might like it' gamble though! 😄

Never liked kids, never felt maternal, never wanted to interact with kids. When I was 29 I started to feel the biological clock ticking and now at 37 I have 4 kids.

Still not a massive fan of other peoples children but I absolutely adore being a mum as hard as it is.

I don’t coo over other peoples babies or children. I’d never be a teacher put it that way! It I love my own children and of course did coo over them.
I think when you become pregnant and give birth Mother Nature normally kicks in,
if you’re 35 and still undecided you better decide quick because time is running out!

Hi @Startrekkeruniverse my life pre baby was very much about working out to have the perfect body, career, flashy car, nice clothes, endless shoes, the list goes on. I never thought i would have a baby, i would imagine it for 5 mins but never thought i'd actually have a baby and be a responsible Mum. But here i am totally obsessed with my baby girl, she's my world, i have a mum bod and live in leggings. I wish i had her years ago, she has given me something to live for.
Hope the above helps xx

I wasn't remotely maternal before I had kids. Didn't like being around young kids (nothing against them, I just didn't know how to interact and felt awkward and incompetent), never wanted to hold babies, generally just found them a bit wierd and gross.

Nevertheless I felt a strong yearning to be a mother and just sort of assumed it would all fall into place when I had my own. And it did. And now I'm a lot more confident around other people's kids too, and do like a cuddle with a newborn.

I wasn't remotely maternal, I can just about tolerate my close friends kids, even now, but my DS is my absolute world. So much so I'm expecting number 2! Children are a complete blessing, hard work but amazing