Birthday party dilemma

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DS is 4 and was invited to a child from his preschools birthday party. This child will be in his reception class along with some of the others attending and we have RSVP'd to going. DS then came home with an invite from a child at his daycares birthday party happening the same day. In order to attend both we would need to leave the daycare child's birthday half an hour early and then go straight to the second party. AIBU to try and go to both parties or would I be better just going to the one we have already RSVP'd to?
DS has already said he would prefer to go to the party we have RSVP'D to but I suppose I feel bad for the other child

Go to the one you've RSVP'd to.

Go to the one you’ve rsvp’d to. But explain the situation to the other child’s parent asap. It may be that there’s a few other crossovers with children invited, snd if that is the case they might want a heads up or to move the date so it doesn’t clash with the other party who got in there first. We live in a small village where many of the kids friendship groups overlap, and this happens quite a lot.

If you RSVP you should go. If you feel guilty about the second party arrange to have a playdate with them.

Go to the one you’ve RSVP’d to. It happens.

Go to both and keep up friendship opportunities

Just go to the original one.

Explain to the other parents when you rsvp no to that one: 'thank you so much for the invitation, unfortunately we are already committed on that day'. It's fine.

Apart from nothing else, wouldn't your ds be completely overwhelmed and overstimulated anyway if you tried to attend both? Mine definitely would have been at that age.

Apart from anything else, not nothing else 🤦🏼‍♀️

I’d go to both having first given the second one a heads up about the clash. Actually best to tell the second one you’ll be a bit late rather than leave first early.

Thanks everyone, I've decided to just go to the second party that we had already RSVP'd to, I agree it'll probably be too much for my DS to attend both right after each other and would feel awkward leaving early/arriving late to attend them both

I agree just the one- it would be too hard to slip out and risk not having cake or a party bag and there would be tears.

Just the first one. They are already liable to be climbing the walls like a deranged monkey after one sugar-filled party at this age, two and you’re guaranteeing hysterics.

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