Ofsted visiting nursery - teacher suggested keeping DD off

[ForeverTired89]

So I picked my DD (just turned 3) up from her nursery party today and at the handover the teacher said Ofsted are visiting tomorrow and it might be better if I keep my DD home as today she was quite emotional and overwhelmed by all the kids.

A bit taken aback as tomorrow is her last day at that nursery because she starts school nursery in September. FYI these are funded hours.

Is this a normal request? WWYD?

How bloody rude! They should be able to demonstrate they can cope with any child. To ask certain ones to stay off is deceitful. I would say no and take my child in!!

Of course not and mention this to Ofsted .

Mention this to ofstead in the parent feedback form, and send her in. They are out of order, and ofstead don’t inspect children so they’d only be looking at how the staff handled this anyway, which personally I’d want to no about.

Talk to Ofsted. There will be parent form or ask to speak to them tomorrow.

How very unprofessional and rude. Don’t listen to the staff and send her. As PP said, ofsted ask for parent feedback so I would mention this to them.

I'd absolutely do this!!

Absolutely not. Send her in and tell management and ofsted what was said.

Sounds like they think there maybe sen

Quite emotional and overwhelmed by all the kids? What does that mean? She was overwhelmed by the party? She's overwhelmed everyday because she struggles with the number of children at the nursery? Are they saying she's unhappy there and they can't handle her? I think you need some answers if you had no idea about this before, not least so you can talk to her new nursery if she needs more support.

Definitely take her tomorrow - do you have any concerns with her behaviour yourself OP?

Wow! That was not ok. OFSTED visits are of course stressful and if you have children who perhaps are needing extra attention for whatever reason, it is a lot all at once, but I’m afraid that’s life. I think it’s especially bad given it’s your child’s last day.

As a former child care person to me it sounds like ur daughter may be harder to look after then the other children.

ofsted inspections are hard. And getting harder. But to actually say this to u is just awful. How high up in the chain of command is the person who said this. If daily lower down it may just have been naive and lacking in experience. But even so I would be talking to whoever is in charge. And if ur not happy I would then report them. As this is not the type of person / nursery I would have wanted to have worked in or sent my son to.

Thanks everyone.

I have absolutely no concerns about my DD whatsoever. She’s had nothing but glowing reviews from the nursery and her key worker.

I’ve had issues with this particular teacher since my DD started, always had something negative to say or some comment to make upon picking her up but whenever I’ve asked her key worker about it the next day, she’s always confused!

I'd send DD in tomorrow so the inspector can see how well the nursery handles any child who is "emotional and overwhelmed".

Based on what he sees there, he's going to recommend which ways the manager and staff can improve their work and the nursery.

Do you have any other concerns about your dc? “Emotional and overwhelmed” suggests sensory sensitivity to me but who knows!

OMG OP! This was literally me last week! Well my husband as he picked DS (3) up on his second to last day and this particular teacher who also always has a negative said something similar to hubby. She said that prospective parents and children would be visiting the following day and she was concerned. I actually didn’t send him in the following day because she made my husband feel so awful about it. I similarly wanted to do a post about it to ask for advice but thought I would be torn to shreds 😢

@SpaceRaiders No I haven’t got any concerns. I’ve just got back from a 3 week work trip away where she stayed with MIL so she’s been quite emotional, understandably!

@Saucepot1985 That’s awful! I understand the nurseries want everything to go smoothly but I wasn’t sure if it was a normal request hence why I made a post!

It was as other PP’s state very wrong of the nursery to ask you this. Saying that if you are able to care for your DD tomorrow without it impacting on your work or anything else, I would personally just keep her off. Have a lovely day together doing something nice. It’s likely she is picking up on the stress emanating from the staff over OFSTED . She would probably have a throughly miserable day with them. It’s her last day there anyway and she will be moving on to a new placement in September. So onwards and upwards.

It's not a normal request. If she knows no different I would keep her off and inform OFSTED via their parent questionnaire or directly, that you were asked to keep your child at home directly because their inspectors were due on site.

That's not normal.

I wonder of they're over their numbers and need to get a few to stay home so they don't get found out.

I’m not saying it’s right but the fact that they’ve asked you to keep your dc off suggests that it perhaps isn’t a one off? That being said, any setting should be able to cope with a child who is “emotional” I mean what 3 year old isn’t?!

And for those saying send dc in. Why would you? Dc is already out of sorts. The staff will be stressed more so than on any other given day. Op if you can, keep her off dc’s happiness is more important than proving a point.

That’s not ok. Think about what you want to do. It’s ok for people to say report them. It’s you that would have to do it. Do what you feel is right and comfortable for you. 💐💐

I'd literally wait for ofsted to turn up at the setting and then tell them what they said