Fam is sharing pic of my baby without consent

[mummy1789]

I'm getting more angry each day. My baby is currently 6 months and on the day of birth (shortly after labour) my only one wish to my husband was to not share our baby's pic and protect him at all cost. It worked for maybe 1st 3 months. Then slowly my husbands family started sharing our pic with his face covered. Then they went full on and now sharing his photos on weekly basis. I was trying to be understanding, my MIL lives miles away, didn't meet the little one so I'm sending her pics and videos daily. I know it makes her happy. And it's their 'thing' to share pic on WhatsApp or Insta stories for all family to see. Bear with me, husbands side of family is counted in hundreds, add up friends - it will make it thousand in contacts. It's making me mad. Once, my MIL accidentally posted video of me with baby on family chat group - 10 ppl. He was laughing but I haven't had my trousers on. Deleted immediately. Few days ago, she posted very cute pic on her story, as soon as I sent her. She said then, so many ppl messaged her asking who's baby is it etcs. Its maybe funny, but I do believe in evil eye, since every time I posted anything, he had crazy tantrum for no reason. My BIL, who visits us once in month at best (lives 15min away) just posted his pic that I have sent him. I texted him that I believe in evil eye so do u have to post it? He said, I prayed blah blah blah don't worry. Im fuming.. I'll stop sending pic to anyone, if anyone want to see him can come over or video call..

But you used evil eye as your reason for not liking it! You know the solution but I suspect wanted several unknown people to agree with you to support your decision. The implications in your replies that other parents don't care about paedophiles is just plain rude. Have you considered that unless you stay locked in your house all day, every day that there will be hundreds of people that see your child out in the street? Likely a significant amount of them repeatedly.

Unless you are sending photos of him in the bath what does it matter? As he gets older anyone can take photos of hi m and post them where they like and you wouldn't even know. Hell be in the background at photos at children's parties etc even if not the main focus.

You need to chill out and understand you can't control other people. If you send them photos it's then upto them what they do with them.

Just stop sending photographs and videos. Problem solved (well, the problem of photo sharing is solved - the 'evil eye' problem will still be there of course, whatever the hell that problem is 😳🤦‍♀️)

OP - please get therapy for your evil eye delusion. You must know that no rational thinking human believes in this nonsense!!

If you're getting this wound up over baby pictures you're in for a tough time as a parent, you need to relax and seek help for your anxiety 💐

Look, I post pics of my kids on my story because I only have friends and family in there, and I always think people are idiots when they tell me it's dangerous because it's no different to whattsap if you have the right controls in. BUT you have asked them not to so they're completely out of order going against the parents wishes

Have a word with yourself as you clearly have issues.

Bloody ridiculous and potentially bloody emotionally damaging to your child. You do not own your child. There is no 'evil eye' and a 6 month old baby does not tantrum. So just stop sending photos and don't take videos with your trousers down ( but if that's what you're in to, keep them private and don't send on)
Believe it or not but your baby is not the second coming.

We have never posted a picture of our child on social media. If friends/family take a picture I just say we're trying to keep them off sm for now so please don't post. If anyone did then go on and post a picture I would ask them to delete it and then not send any further pictures to them if they refused. Only you can advocate for your child. It's really quite simple, don't send them the pictures.

Superstitions aside - the root of this is that OP has set a perfectly normal boundary, and MIL is ignoring this.

There are plenty of other posts on this sort of thing where the consensus is that the MIL is being unreasonable for ignoring the OPs wishes so I don't understand why this OP is being rounded on for the same thing.

OP - state your boundary, and if it continues simply stop sending the photos and tell her why. I'm sure MIL will soon change her tune.

Oh get a grip 🙄

We’re the same, minimal pictures are shared and different ones with each person (family history which means safeguarding is very important)

My children are teenagers now and we have stopped sharing their photos etc on social media several years ago when we realised the extent of privacy issues, facial recognition, internet searches etc. Our children may not be happy with what was shared in the future when they grow up as well. Family, friends and sports clubs still share them time to time. We don't say much to that but I am surprised how many people share every single photo they take on social media and they don't worry about the privacy issues at all.

The suggestion above that you set your photos to a one time view is a good one. It means the I tended recipient can see them but they won't go everywhere else.

As for baby randomly waking up crying, I can assure you that that happens regardless of whether or not photos are put on WhatsApp groups. That is not an evil eye thing, it's a baby thing .. in other words perfectly normal.

Stop sending them pics of the baby and send them this instead

It is a very relevant indicator in your post that you have a very unusual "belief" that is driving irrational behaviour. If you don't want to explore it why even mention it?

NO. The OP doesn't want private photos shared online. This is sensible and her right. Don't call her hysterical. It is her right and her family members need to respect it or they don't get any more photos.
Stand your ground OP - set boundaries.

Forget all the superstition nonsense. Bit you’re well within your rights to not want your child on social media. Stop sending pictures.

I agree with PP, stop with all the superstition as it makes you look crazy when actually your request is normal and sensible. You are simply safeguarding your DC. I've never done the back of head/covered face's ect as it seems to creep into people thinking they can share what they like. I would stop sending family pictures and videos if they cannot respect your wishes.

This is good advice.

@CuriouslyDifferent I'm not wondering!!

what do you think 'pedos' are going to do with the photos? there is plenty out there (sadly) they dont need random peoples childrens photos

You do need to get a grip on this though
If you dont want photos sharing, then dont share them

If your husband does want to share them, then thats his choice, its his child too

If my baby wakes up suddenly at odd time in the middle of the night crying

thats what babies do..........................?

You will get no where unless your DH supports you on this. That's what you need to tackle. They are doin this with his consent.

The evil eye thing 😳 😳😳

@TooBigForMyBoots

Did you miss the 'evil eye' that makes her baby tantrum when a photo is posted and wakes up in the night because if it??? Nothing to do with being a 6 month old baby...

yep, totally normal 🙄🙄🙄

I'm finding some of these responses weird and unnecessarily rude. Telling op to get therapy is unacceptable; I'm guessing we know who the classroom bullies were 😒. It doesn't matter what your reasons are for not wanting the photos shared, whether it's religious, cultural, superstition, OTT fear or basic privacy, the important point is you have asked for them not to be shared. If your family can't accept that they can't share your private photos, then they don't get access to your photos.