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15 Year Old: Clueless or selfish

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trek77 · 17/07/2023 19:16

Hi,

Full disclosure I'm not a Mum.

My daughter 15, does well social and at school but is really hard to take at home. She is at at Indi school, and we do graft hard to facilitate that. However
my daughter seems really profligate to us. Room is a complete mess, 12 wild
pigs would be cleaner around the home. Anyway to get to point of contention she has already dropped a laptop (macbook) which we replaced.Recently she got a new iphone which we told her many times to use a 'dropcase' and screen protector. She did not, and dropped it, rendering it operable. This has cut her off from friends etc so she is distraught.

My wife thinks she has to lump it, she wasn't born in the UK and had quite a poor upbringing, so it's doubly galling for her.

But I feel it me be better to just get her a new one (or fix it) just to not rock the boat at school/and with friends. We are both Livid.

She also does other stuff like giving 10 min warnings to take her places and pickup and basically having no empathy for us. Again its hard to take, and if I
think back I was a pretty helpful teen.

My boss said his daughter was awful from 13 - 18 and then came back onside, and saw reason at 19 20 - I believe this could be happen here as up to 12 she was quite helpful. any tips?

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lljkk · 17/07/2023 19:23

How much savings does she have, why can't she buy her own replacement phone?

GameOverBoys · 17/07/2023 19:25

I’d fix it eventually but I wouldn’t be in a rush.

YallaYallaaa · 17/07/2023 19:28

I would mend it, but in future if it’s not in a case it’s not leaving the house.

That would be my attitude to a lot of things - if she wants taking somewhere, she can give you lots of notice or wait till it’s convenient, and only if she asks nicely.

Yes she’ll strop, but she’ll turn into a reasonable human again!

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Precipice · 17/07/2023 19:32

Room is a complete mess = completely standard for a teenager!

Did you get her a dropcase and a screen protector for the phone? Or just tell her to buy one? Now she's seen how shit the phone is and how easily it breaks, she should see why such additions might be needed.

10 mins warnings to take her places = not on.

Dearly89 · 24/07/2023 15:32

fix her current one, buy her a downgraded version, then sell the old one. Should cover cost and will still punish her for carelessness but won’t keep her cut off x

HappiDaze · 24/07/2023 15:47

Their whole world is on that phone. Get her a cheap refurbished iPhone or an SE iPhone till she can be trusted

HappiDaze · 24/07/2023 15:47

As for her bedroom that's the norm for the majority of teen DDs

DustyLee123 · 24/07/2023 15:49

They are very selfish.

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