How to stop co-sleeping (20mo)

[Orangepen13]

It’s not working for us anymore.
we’re at a stage where we have:

• Nightweaned
• no longer needs to feed to sleep
• moved to floor bed
• she spend first half of night asleep on her own
• i sleep on mattress next to her from first night wake

problem is, she wriggles into my mattress and ends up sleeping in my single mattress on the floor 😂 so we’re both worse off.

how do I transition out of this last little bit?

What happens if you go back to bed in your own room?

I have the same problem so much so that I had to check your user name to make sure it wasn't old post of mine. Unfortunately, at 24 months we are still co-sleeping with Ds. Some nights when he wakes up he goes back to sleep once he's seen us or when I out my hand on him but too many nights he comes down to my mattress, lies horizontally across it so I get pushed to the foot of the mattress with most of my body on the floor and my feet in the book case!!

Id love to move out but not sure how. Hope you'll get some useful advice soon. I've got none except maybe do try to tackle it now if you don't want to be in my position 4 months later...

@Bitsyvonmuffling77 when we’ve tried it she’s often woken quite quickly (after settling slowly)… oftentimes I’m so sleep deprived I fall asleep before that’s even an option🤪

@PorePurifyingCucumberSandwich thank you for the solidarity! I’m also at the squished stage. So many times I’ve wondered if this is actually going anywhere or if we’re better off going back to the king size where we’re at least comfy!

I thinks it is wise to do something now before she's big enough to be climbing out of the cot or has moved to a bed.

Can you put her down to sleep in her cot and you sit in a comfy chair next to the cot? I rock my daughter(15 mo) nearly to sleep in the chair with me, then pop her in the cot. She won't get sleepy unless shes holding my hair so i allow that! Once she's dozy, I pat her and try to sooth her inside the cot or snuggle her a bit longer. But I try not to bring her to my room anymore (it helps she's sharing a room with her brother, so that is soothing in itself, I suppose).

Once they are in a toddler bed, they inevitably come climbing in with you now and again which is lovely but it's better if they are settled in their own space so that it's not happening all the time.

Good luck!