God it's proving hard. Ithink he might be shifting because at first he stonewalled the idea, now he is considering it (course he could always say no eventually ).
I think I could do with some help. I reeeealllly want to have a fourth child and have stated that when we discussed having children years ago I wanted 4 and was very clear about this, he looked quite shocked then but said well we'll see how we manage.
I have 3 the youngest being 12 mo and I'm really broody to do it one last time. I love the idea of four running round, have no qualms with HE'ing 4. I have more love to give and bizarrely feel as if there a little one waiting somewhere (I know that sounds a bit weird). We are looking at getting a larger car anyway so this won't be a problem. We have a 3 bed house which would fit one little one, or he has admitted we could extend the house to create 2 more bedrooms.
We won't lose any income or cost anymore as things will stay the same financially.
I think he is concerned about me being pg again (even though all pg have been completely healthy, he just worries bout me and baby) and about the fact that we are 34 this year, he feels he will be getting too old.
As far as I can see these are his main concerns.
What else can I say positively about no.4? I have all these reasons why it's such a good idea but when it comes to discussing them all I can come up with is a real need to have a fourth child and I'm as articulate as a slack-jawed yokel at this point in our conversation.
Did you have to convince your Dh at all, what was the clincher? How can I get round the neeeeed argument because I don't think men get the biological neeeed argument lol