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Another baby....

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YOUSEECOLOURS · 17/07/2023 00:03

So i have a 10year old from a previous relationship and now have a 2 1/2 year old with my husband. Sometimes I jokingly say that the two together are a great birth control as they can be tough and he hasn't ever really made any comments. A late period last month made us both beleive I was pregnant unexpectedly but it wasn't the case..... The possibility don't seem to disappoint either of us. Tonight out of nowhere my husband asked about if he should book in for the snip as he has been talking to his friend about it. Whilst we have never planned any more child this seems very final... I'm not sure I'm ready to completely commit to no more and if it wasn't for affordability of childcare etc I would definitely be open to consideration but the cost of living crisis hits us all 🤦‍♀️.

Admittedly we aren't overly intimate as I can't have most pills/implant due to migraines and a condom isn't the best. So I'm not sure if the snip is more so that he can have sex and not need to worry about pregnancy.

I'm 33 and he is 27 if this helps at all.

Am I right to feel a little upset by his sudden thought process.

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NuffSaidSam · 17/07/2023 00:07

I don't think you're right to be upset, he was asking a completely fair question. If you don't want that at this point and want the possibility of more children then talk to him about it. Listen to what he has to say and make a decision from there. If he's decided he definitely doesn't want anymore children then he's doing the right thing to tell you that straight away and not let you think the possibility is there if it isn't.

YOUSEECOLOURS · 17/07/2023 00:15

NuffSaidSam · 17/07/2023 00:07

I don't think you're right to be upset, he was asking a completely fair question. If you don't want that at this point and want the possibility of more children then talk to him about it. Listen to what he has to say and make a decision from there. If he's decided he definitely doesn't want anymore children then he's doing the right thing to tell you that straight away and not let you think the possibility is there if it isn't.

Thank you, I think it was just completely out of the blue where he was ok having another to now considering having none at all and discussing it with friends without speaking to me before.

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