Our child is 4 months old. Our firstborn. Parenting together is not what I thought it would be. I love it, but I do everything. I am breastfeeding, so I know I chose to take on the responsibility of feeding solo. But, I also change every nappy. Get her dressed. Bathe her. Comfort her. Get her to sleep if needed. Do most of the playing and interacting. On top of that, I do all of the housework. Dad works full time. I voiced early on that I don't think he has bonded with her. Mental health issues have always been present for him and recently he has spoken about feeling low. He doesn't get any professional support, he asked for it once and the GP laughed at him. He has never asked again. I can't cope with parenting both of them. I feel awful! He comes home from work and watches youtube on his phone. No quality time with either of us. I feel like it is me and my daughter, and then him. I have to tell him to do things....like wash the dishes, hoover the floor. The house needs cleaning, you can see it does.
I want to talk to my HV but I know he won't appreciate it. It will cause a rift in the relationship.