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Holiday without the kids

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CatMum96 · 15/07/2023 09:22

I'm going on holiday next year with my aunt and sister. I'll be gone for 8 days, leaving a 4 year old and 14 month old at home with their dad.

Whilst I'm nervous about going I'm Also desperate for a break. Between my bio kids and my step daughter (who resides with me and her dad) I haven't had really been kid free for 9 years! I'm desperate for a break.

My husband has had multiple short beaks away and between him and my family the kids will be fine but how do I get over the guilt of going? I feel like going makes me a terrible mum!

Please don't comment with "I couldn't do it" because that won't help the guilt!

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SiouxsieSiouxStiletto · 15/07/2023 10:53

Just don't listen to the negativity. Whatever you do as a Mum you'll get criticised.

I went on holiday alone and left them with their DF when mine were in Secondary School and still got the "I really don't understand why you'd want to" talks.

Go and enjoy your holiday. Your DA might not be here for ever

Toomuch2019 · 15/07/2023 10:54

Enjoy your holiday and please don't worry. As you say, when it's the other way round they are always fine.

And please ignore those who criticise your choice, it often comes from a place of jealousy. It does not make you a bad mum to have a break leaving them with other adults that love them

Lovemusic33 · 15/07/2023 10:55

I could do it 😁
I haven’t been away from my dc ever, dd2 is severely autistic and no one (including her father) will look after her. I would kill for a week away.

Enjoy your break, I think any parents should grab the opportunity with both hands if it’s possible. Your dc will be fine with their dad.

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justaweenamechange · 15/07/2023 11:03

Don't feel guilty, you'll have a great time and return to your kids refreshed and able to put your all in to parenting again.

We all need a break!

twilightcafe · 15/07/2023 11:43

If (heaven forbid) you needed hospital treatment, your DH and family would have to step up and rally round.

Go on your holiday. Enjoy it.

Everybody will be fine.

Timeforsnacks · 15/07/2023 15:14

Sounds like it will be the best time ever!
I would go and wouldn't regret it one bit. You know you need the holiday otherwise you wouldn't have booked it! That in itself should be enough to stop you feeling guilty!
First holiday without them in almost a decade- while you are there imagine another 9 years of not being on a holiday without them, that will help you get over the regret 😂

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