Childcare on your days

[Garydad]

Hi,

I have 50/50 split care of our son. My question is, is it my responsibility and decision for his childcare on the days I have him?
for example, if there’s an ofsted nursery I wish to take him to on the days I have him, does my ex have a say in wether I’m allowed to do that or not? Thank you

If there is a court order in place he would probably get a say. If he says he wants to look after your child instead… see how long it lasts.

Generally speaking you're responsible for your days.

If she objects, you could mediate or go for a court order.

Technically speaking you would cover the venue and costs of the childcare you require during your contact time and your ex would cover the venue and costs of the childcare they need during their contact time.

I've no idea of the sexes in this set up but I will warn you that your responses may vary depending on if you are dad or mum.

Generally it appears that Mum sorts and pays for childcare and Dad has the child when it doesn't need paid childcare, but this obviously isn't always the case.

Lots of childcare providers require fixed days, so if you do a full week each it would be better to mutually agree a setting and split the bill in half. But if one always needs Monday and Tuesday and the other always needs Wednesdya and Thursday then I don't see why two providers would be an issue.

Clearly the child is at the centre of this, so as long as they weren't negatively impacted by having two providers then crack on.

You are responsible for childcare on your days yes. However there might be an issue if your ex partner doesn't agree with child attending specific establishment- as there is with school choice - but it becomes a specific issue court case if you can't agree I guess. (Not sure if this applies to nursery - but I could see it if it is funded hours...)

I've no idea of the sexes in this set up but I will warn you that your responses may vary depending on if you are dad or mum.

We can't be sure what sex OP's partner is, but his sex is pretty clear from his username.

In fairness I never look, unless someone makes a "well, your username is certainly appropriate" type comment