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Parental preference from toddler

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ammmmmo · 12/07/2023 08:22

I have a 13 month old, who for the past 6 months or so, has always preferred my husband. Recently now he’s more vocal and able to express himself, it has become more apparent and it’s making me feel very rejected.

He will look at me and say “no no no” while shaking his head, yet runs towards my husband. He cries if my husband tries to pass him to me and clings to him for dear life. He won’t give me a look in while my husband is in the room.

I know it’s not the right way of dealing with it, but it’s making me retreat when he does this because in my brain I just start to think “well what’s the point of me trying” so I go and do something else. I know I should probably stay present but it’s hard when he visibly says no to me, and runs from me, and pushes me away.

I work 3 days a week, the two days I am at home, my husband is also working from home, so we never get 1:1 time unless we’re outside the house. My husband went away for the weekend a few weeks ago and the bond my son and I had was great, it was such a lovely weekend, but as soon as my husband comes back, it’s just rejection over and over again.

Has anyone been in this situation and is there light at the end of the tunnel?

From one rejected mama :(

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neverenoughchelseaboots · 12/07/2023 08:25

I’m in this stage at the moment. I take the rest and the break it brings. Also I’m very grateful that I can go away for the night and know I’ve not got a clingy child pining for his mum.

My older DD once told me ‘I love you mum, but not as much as Dad.’ A couple of months later she was my little shadow. It’s all just the phases of life.

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