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My 8 year old can be so nasty

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Twilightsparkly · 11/07/2023 15:58

Just that really - to me, to other family members, to the dogs and to her friends!

It started off with just being aimed towards me. I'm annoying, I always moan at her, I'm always in a mood etc etc. I took this on board and have really been making an effort to go easier on her but it still doesn't help, she will shout at me tell me she hates her life, just generally speaking to me like I'm a piece of dirt on the bottom of her shoe! (Tends to be more when she's not getting her own way)

I discipline her, take away things she likes to use, send her to her bedroom until I feel she has earnt these privileges back and it will work until the next day.

This morning when I dropped DD off at school I noticed she was being quite rude to another girl in her class. Said girl had walked over to DD to say good morning and DD ignored her, she eventually said hello and then another friend came over and DD went running off with this friend leaving the other girl stood alone. I have pulled her up on it just now when I have picked her up and now straight away it's "omg why are you moaning at me already, I wasn't leaving her out" I calmly explained I am not moaning but I did not like what I saw and I hope she knows it's not nice to leave people out, she has now sulked off to her bedroom.

I do have another DD who is 2 but DD8 still gets plenty of attention, alone time and it's something I have always made sure of - it's as though she has sooo much anger inside her and she's struggling to express it.

I think my next steps are going to be therapy but was curious to see whether anyone has gone through similar and can tell me it's just a phase, everything is just a battle I feel like a failure ☹️👎🏻

Apologies for the ramble x

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Are your children’s vaccines up to date?
PaintedEgg · 11/07/2023 17:30

Maybe start with taking a step back - kids at this age are still testing boundaries and while it is important to teach them manners, they are under no obligation to like everyone.

In any case - of course she wont like the boundaries you're setting and will try to fight them. Doesn't mean she really hates you or that she hates her life. She just hates being on time out :)

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