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4am wakeups - losing my mind

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Pizzaandsushi · 08/07/2023 05:24

Our 16 month old has always been an early riser. Could never really get him past 5:30-5:45am no matter what we did so we accepted it.
However for the past few months he has been crying awake pretty much bang on 4am (sometimes needs resettling by putting a dummy in or sometimes resettles himself) only to wakeup at 5am crying again but this time for the day. We try and leave him in his cot until 5:45-6am unless he’s hysterical so not to reinforce the early wake.
He now sleeps through until 4am absolutely fine unless ill and I could maybe even accept the 5am wakeup if it didn’t have the 4am wakeup in between. Never mind he is clearly still tired and only clocking 9-9:30 hours of night sleep.
We have so many blackout blinds, it’s not daylight waking him. We have a sound machine, tried a nightlight. He has loads of dummies and even a straw cup of water in case he’s thirsty. He has a supper and a bedtime drink of milk so don’t think it can be hunger and bedtime is 7-7:30pm. We’ve tried earlier and later bedtimes and NOTHING is breaking this 4am habit!
me and my partner work full time and he has always been an extremely demanding baby from the moment he was born so the sleep deprivation is really starting to get to me. Most nights I go to bed at 8pm and it’s still not enough.
any advice would be extremely appreciated!

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Pizzaandsushi · 08/07/2023 05:26

oh and we also wondered about teething so gave half a dose of calpol for a few days to see if that would help and that did nothing and still no more teeth

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nutmegnit · 08/07/2023 06:42

What time is he napping? Is he having two naps or one?

AnotherCountryMummy · 08/07/2023 07:00

I went through this at that age and it's hell on earth. I feel your pain.

Have you dropped down to one nap yet? If not, highly recommend and don't let that day nap be too early. We realised the nap was an extension of the night sleep.

They do usually just grow out of it. Hang in there 🙏🏻

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UnravellingTheWorld · 08/07/2023 07:51

Rouse to sleep method? Never got on with in myself but apparently it does work. You go in an hour before they usually wake and rouse them slightly, but not enough to fully awaken. It's supposed to reset the sleep cycle so they sleep longer.

Welshfiver · 08/07/2023 08:05

We went through this at that age and it was awful. Once he went to one lunchtime nap it did stop. Nothing else worked

PurBal · 08/07/2023 08:14

Like others have suggested, it might be time to drop to one nap. DS did at 15mo.

Tryingtoconceivenumber2 · 08/07/2023 08:38

Yes we also had this at 15 months dropped to one nap and after 2/3 days she was sleeping past 6am. This was advice I was given by a sleep consultant x

VivaVivaa · 08/07/2023 09:08

How many naps does he have and when?

Pizzaandsushi · 08/07/2023 09:56

Sorry should have mentioned naps.
so he goes to nursery 5 days a week and has just the one nap which he’s been on since about 13 months old. He has been going to nursery for months and months and loves it so it’s not an adjustment thing or anything like that.
He adjusted well enough to the one nap even though it was a little early for him but obviously doesn’t sleep as long there as he does at home and it’s after lunch so usually asleep by 12-12:15pm but of course being awake from 5-5:15am isn’t ideal. However I can’t control how and when he naps at nursery only what I do when I get him home.
I even pick him up early around 3:30pm so we have plenty of time to relax and wind down at home before bedtime.
@UnravellingTheWorld rouse to sleep is a good idea! I’m willing to give anything ago at this point.
I really suspect overtiredness at this point that’s built up over time but it’s weird how the timings of his wakes are practically to the minute every time.

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