Would you say your child is THE best looking in a crowd

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I'm really intrigued.

Was having this conversation today with a group of mums.

In a crowd full of children would you look at your own child and think 'they are the best looking out them all'

Because let's face it, everyone seems to think their daughter is the 'most gorgeous' and their son the 'most handsome'

Is it rose-tinted glasses?

(Yes, a very superficial topic, but one I found interesting)

Both of mine are as cute as buttons. Youngest got complimented on many a time as a baby - they’d then cast their over me and try and compute how it all happened 😂. You could see the cogs whirring. (Takes after southern Mediterranean dad not peely waaly Scottish mum)

I think mine are very cute, in a babyish way. I think there are girls 'prettier' than my DD and boys more handsome than my DS. But I still look at them and can't help thinking how beautiful and cute they just are.

As a side note I'd love to know where y'all live because I've never stopped a stranger on a street to comment on their kid's look or had my head turned by a (such stunning )child. I must be missing out 🤨

Both my children’s faces are the ones that stick out in a crowd to me. I know this is because I love them and they are mine and so familiar to me. I don’t think it matters if they are the best looking or not really.

Yes. I do wonder if I'm biased though. Genuinely no idea where he gets it from 🤣

Looking back, my DS' were absolutely beautiful at age 2/3, I don't think I appreciated it at the time!

Considering I myself am no beauty, I am just relieved DS looks average!

More often than not, yes, though I think I would be pretty objective if another child was clearly more stunning.

I've never understood the mother "blindness" so to speak. I get we all think our own DC are lovely, but how this somehow translates into not being able to objectively see what our own child looks like.

I don't have it. Eldest DS is nice looking. Not stunning. Nice looking.

Youngest DS is absolutely beautiful. The proportions of his face, his colourings, his features, are incredible.

DD was born as a potato. No way around it. Not an attractive baby at all. Cuter now.

All equally adored.

However, a child can change completely by adulthood and a beautiful baby usually bears little correlation to a beautiful adult.

My DM was. She literally glowed in photos she was so beautiful and photogenic.

My DD has lots of beautiful friends so they all look gorgeous in photos.

Sometimes she stands out and sometimes it'll be someone else.

No. I think they're super cute but I can objectively see that not everyone would think that.

Yes!

Yep. Mine is gorgeous. In fact when he was a baby I stopped going to baby groups in case other mothers were jealous of my beautiful baby.

TBF i was in the grips of severe PND at the time- but he IS absolutely beautiful looking.

I have an odd one with my eldest.
He’s 3 and he is rather good looking by toddler standards. I get a lot of comments about how ‘good looking’ he is the most common being that he looks a lot like Prince George. Which I don’t personally see, but I hear it a lot.

That being said he’s also autistic and non verbal with significant learning disability. So whilst I’m usually a ‘looks don’t matter’ mum I actually enjoy being complemented about anything when it comes to him, because there’s A LOT of constructive criticism and difficulties.

I think my daughter (3.5 years) is the most beautiful thing in the world, not only in looks but she’s just incredibly kind and well mannered.
bit stick her in a crowd of children? Probably not, I think there’s always someone with feature(s) that are more ‘typically’ beautiful, not that they are ‘more’ beautiful, but beautiful in a different way which.

My son however (18months) is a very beautiful little boy, he’s a typical blonde blue eyed boy with really lovely features and seemingly looks more cute, he gets a lot more compliments on looks than DD.

DD was premature and honestly wasn’t a nice looking baby, she was skin and bone and has her fathers nose (slightly on the bigger side) which didn’t fit her face well at all. But she’s grew into her features pretty quickly, by 4months she was a really cute chunky baby.

but I definitely do notice the difference in compliments that we’ve had on DD than we have on DS.

I'm thinking how convinced everyone is that their children are beautiful. It must be hormones but those rose-tinted glasses can last.

My DNiece was the strangest looking baby ever, but DSis was always convinced she was beautiful . We all adored her, of course, but even my wonderful mam who was the most phenomenal mam and adored all her GC equally quietly agreed with me.

As a 21 year old she's just the most lovely girl, her personality and mind make her sparkle, but objectively she's very average. My DSis telling her how stunning she is/ how she is more beautiful than all her friends/ how she shouldn't accept a boyfriend less than a 6 foot 4 God is not doing her any favours.

My 15 yo dd is far more attractive than me… or as the current beauty trend. I’d have been considered more attractive in about the 18th to early 19th century.

Dd has a lot of her dad in her, Mediterranean look. Amazing hair. Full lips and having had her braces removed, she described them as looking like ‘Turkish teeth’. She is also amazing at putting make up on, which also helps a lot.

Dd was a beautiful baby and had thick hair half way down her back at 2.5. Then she went through more of a geeky looking stage. Time will tell how conventionally attractive she will be and the most important thing is that she is fun to be around and respects others.

At the end of the day, beauty is in the eye of the beholder. I always find people more attractive when I like them a lot.

yes I definitely genuinely felt sorry for all the other mums when my dd was born, I thought all the other babies on the ward were all ugly except for mine 😂

and yes- this is mine as well. He has autism, adhd and learning difficulties including extreme developmental delay.

So I willingly take all the comments about how good looking he is. Because he really is.

DD has very striking colouring. Long red hair in natural ringlets as a child. People did stare.
Teen now and I think still seriously cute - red hair still makes her very noticeable. I think she's an interesting and attractive young woman but objectively probably not 'the' most beautiful. But obvs stil the loveliest to me.

I have one son, 18 and he is conventionally handsome. Although that’s subjective anyway.

He always gets told how much he looks like Taylor Lautner (when he was younger obviously) but he’s not quite as dark. He is also 6’1” and works out at the gym, so he looks in good shape.

I do think in a crowd he stands out, he has beautiful bright eyes and perfect teeth, so when he smiles he seems to glow. And people comment on him to me ‘why doesn’t he do this’, ‘you should take him there’ etc

But good looks hide his low confidence as he suffers with IBS or IBD, we aren’t sure yet and he doesn’t get to enjoy going out like his friends do. His handsome features are of no help where his health issues are concerned, making them pretty meaningless.

When I look for my daughter in a crowd, I don't look for particular features, I look for 'the beautiful one'. It's worked for over forty years.

I do this all the time! If I see a lovely looking child I have no issue saying so.

I saw the most amazing little boy, in a red sailor suit, sitting up in an antique silver cross pram, with olive skin, piercing blue eyes, and a blonde afro, and he was rattling this little grey octopus and laughing his head off. He was probably the most beautiful child I've ever seen. And I absolutely went and told the mother.

Mine are the best and best looking in the world 🥰

DS was a very good looking toddler/child and now is only good looking on occasion as an adult.

DD was the cutest thing ever as a toddler/child and now quite normal looking.

Yep I also say something 'what a lovely child etc'. Because who doesn;t want to give someone a happy moment in their day?

But once I saw a baby - 6 months or so- in the supermarket. She was dressed so beautifully, and her clearly very young mum had taken so much pride and effort. She was also a cheerful little thing grinning away. I looked at her mum and said ; 'Just want to say- officially the cutest baby EVER' and the mum just puffed up with pride in front of me. I meant it too. The baby was a delight but also it was nice to see how much it pleased her mum to have someone say it.