Hi all,
Some advice needed! My DD’s 1st bday is coming up and I have finally split with her narcissistic abusive father but we had been planning a shared party for her in two weeks time which he booked a town hall for.
He’s ramped up his abusive controlling ways over the last few months so I’ve had to minimise contact / block him mostly. But given it’s our DD’s bday, do we go ahead with the shared party? Is it out of order for me to suggest we do separately and invite my side to our house instead? He doesn’t live with us or do much for DD so imo he would have to do something for his side of the family on another day if we were to have separate parties.
Is it unfair for me to suggest this?? He had booked a venue as I said but beyond that he does very little for her!